With no help from our parents.
I think we are going to just get married in Vegas!
2006-10-05 07:35:39 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is her Fiance and I think it's BS. Parents have paid for wedding for1000's of years. It's just my luck that I am born in the Generation where it stopped happening. I love my fiance and I want a giant celebration showing my love for her!
2006-10-05 10:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Fitty4ex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is fair. Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for some or all of the wedding but that is no longer the case. You may want to sit down and ask your parents why they are unwilling to help with the wedding expenses. If they say it is a money crunch issue then ask them to pay for a specific item like your dress or shoes or the wedding cake. If they just out right refuse then sit down with your fiance' and figure out what you can afford and when you can afford it. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-05 08:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wedding Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's completely fair that you should pay for your wedding. However, since you're paying, you call the shots. It is NOT fair if your parents are expecting you guys to foot the bill, but then dictating what should and should not happen. If they want veto power on decision making, then they need to put their money where their mouths are, and pony up some of the cash for the expenses.
Since you're paying it, if you want to get married in Vegas, then by all means, go for it! Best of luck to you!
2006-10-05 08:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is fair. Parents are under no obligation to pay for a wedding although custom has the parents of the bride dishing up the dough. Go to Vegas and have a party whan you get back.
2006-10-05 07:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married next year and my fiance and I are paying for the whole thing. Granted it would be nice if either one of our families could or would pitch in, but it is not a requirement. We are getting married- not them. I will have help from my big sister, but not much.
If you feel that you need to go to Vegas to get married- do so. But someone offer to help pay for you wedding is just that- an offer- not a requirement.
2006-10-05 07:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no written rule that the parents HAVE to help. It is just a long-standing tradition. Some parents aren't financially able to. Others don't agree with the match. If you really want to get married, it is left up to you. A marriage in Vegas sounds great! Go for it!
2006-10-05 07:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your familys aren't willing to go in on the wedding and you want a big wedding You can do it on your own.. It don't have to be an expensive wedding to be pretty and the most wonderful days of your lives.
Tell in person all of your friends and family when and where the wedding is going to be and it will save on the invitations.
e-mail works wonders and the others that don't have computers you can make a quick call.
The grocery stores make some pretty fantastic wedding cakes and are fairly cheap .
As for your wedding party dress you can have them wear something of the colors that you want.. they all don't have to look alike.
get your dress that you want to wear , and your fiance get a tux so that the both of you are looking really nice..
You are the most important part of the wedding anyway. you won't care what the rest of them look like anyway.. the grocery stores also have flowers that they can make up for you.. Just get your boquet and a flower for your fiances collar and go for it like that.
Reception buy some cheap punch get styrofoam cups and you will have your cake..
with the small wedding cake and a couple sheet cakes you should have the perfect reception too.
Going to Vegas is also an option but if it is your first marriage for the both of you.. you might want to try to swing a small wedding.. that will look good and for the both of you to remember.
good luck and congratulations on your up coming marriage.. don't let anyone ruin your day for you..
If you dad won't be there to give you away. pick one of your really good male friends to give you away..
works and it will be a very special day for you.
2006-10-05 07:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like you said, it's YOUR wedding. If you want a wedding, you pay for it. If you want a car, you pay for it. If you want a house, you pay for it. See a connection. Just because you're getting married doesn't mean someone else pays for it. That's just an old way of doing things, having the brides parents pay for everything. If you don't want to shell out that much money, cut back on what you are having at your wedding, or elope.
2006-10-05 07:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/you & not because tradition but because parents should know its going to be so hard for a newly wed couple to pay off an entire wedding -- if they cant afford it then there is really nothing you can do but if either sides can afford it, i would speak up about wanting some help financially - also if they dont budge bring up how you 2 might just go to vegas, that way they all will miss the wedding & im sure they dont wanna do that so they will be more then willing to help
2006-10-05 07:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's fair! They've already spent a small fortune raising you... to they really need to follow some archaic tradition so you can feel like a princess for a day? Besides, if you're paying for it, they're much less likely to be throwing their two-cents in on every decision. My husband and I paid for everything ourselves... I bought the material and a pattern and my sister who's an expert seamstress made me a one or a kind dress. We splurged a little on the reception site, but all told, including attendant gifts, we spent under $3,500 on a wedding with about 75 guests.
2006-10-05 07:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by suzy7o7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋