I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 14 mo old. My 3-year-old insists on being carried around EVERYWHERE. My youngest only just started walking, so I think the eldest wanted to be carried because the baby was being carried around.
If we refuse to carry her, she has a huge tantrum and refuses to go anywhere until you return to pick her up. This means we carry her up the stairs in our own home, to and from the car to daycare, stores, etc.
Any advice on how to cure her of this? Thank you!
2006-10-05 07:26:19 · 20 answers · asked by JFlo19 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm sorry to say this, but I hate when parents let their kids make the rules. Next time she throws a tantrum, walk away and ignore her. If there is no one to show, then she'll probably stop. Stand your ground. If she throws one and then you pick her up, you are only teaching her to throw tantrums.
Good luck. stay strong.
2006-10-05 07:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let your 3 year old throw a fit refuse to carry her after a while she should stop, but in the mean time, you can drag her by her hand, or sit her in time at doesnt matter where you are pratice in not a so public place. If all fails tell her you are going to take her home and put her str8 to bed and if she dont listen do just that. Get a handle of the situation now, or later it could be something else.
2006-10-05 07:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tantrum at home is something you can just let her scream and kick as long as she wants, as long as she's in a safe place, you don't have to give in to her. My two and a half year old just went through this with wanting to be carried, I talk to her all the time about us 'helping eachother', so we hold hands and help eachother up the stairs. That way she feels like a big girl because she's helping mommy. Good luck. Hang in there and try not to give in. Soon enough, she'll get used to the new expectations.
2006-10-05 08:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her options: let her know exactly what will happen if she doesn't follow the rules (the rule being that she is not being carried anymore). Also, make a time out area in your home, where she will have to sit if she starts having a tantrum. Pick her up and put her there and if she tries to move, put her back. Invest in ear pugs for the rest of your family if she's a screamer. If you don't stay strong and show her she is not the boss, you will be putting up with these kinds of problems for her whole life.
Also, remember to reward her for her good behaviour. Let her choose what is for dinner, what bed time story to read, what movie to watch, what to do on Saturday, etc. Hopefully if you start to treat her like she has some choice, she will realize there are better things than being a baby.
2006-10-05 07:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you helped create that unwanted behavior by simply giving into her first temper tantrum to be carried. you probably had no idea it would get so out of hand. and i feel for you because it is very frustrating. simply do not pick her up when she demands it. LET HER CRY. this is easier said than done, but you are the parents. thats the reasson why she throws a tantrum because she knows eventually, you will give in and pick her up. be patient and dont give in. if you are running late, be late. the lesson you will be teaching her is far more important than the temporary aggravation of being late.
2006-10-06 07:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by ABC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just need to be firm with her and tell her no. Let her know that you guys still love her, but she is 3 1/2 years old and doesn't need to be carried any more. Tell her she is a big girl now and doesn't need to be carried all the time anymore. Praise her when she does walk some where on her own and when you see kids her age at a store that are walking or being pushed in a stroller, say look at that big girl or boy, she or he doesn't have her mommy or daddy carry them. I think lots of praise does a miracle. Let her see that you guys don't carry your 14 month old everywhere. You can ween your 14 month old of being carried to, or she or he will develop the same habbit of wanting to be carried everywhere. Just make sure you give her lots of love and praise when she does walk somewhere on her own.
2006-10-05 07:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the adult. Start giving the little one attention for walking. Give the 3 year old some responsibilities so she feels important. Just get her mind off things. She needs a bit of attention.
2006-10-05 07:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let your daughter run the show and control you. If you do you will really struggle as she gets older. You have to be a strong assertive parent. Explain to her that she is not a baby and that she can walk on her own. If she throws a tantrum give her a time out. Follow through. You have to be the tough one. What are you going to do when she is a teen? Don't give in to her demands. She is playing you!
2006-10-05 07:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR the adult YOU make the rules ..do not give into her tantrums it only makes it worse soon she will start throwing tantrums for everything she wants since you are teaching her it works so well to get her way. Take her to a park or something and then leave her butt in the car until she finaly realizes if she wants to play she has to walk...if it doesnt work the first time then leave without her playing and try again the next day
2006-10-05 08:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by lil_tx_priss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in!! leave, scare her make her think you are going to leave my daughter does that all the time I let her throw the tantrum, if she still refuses to walk, I give her a pat on the butt, (there is a difference from spanking and beating your child), sooner or later she will get the point that mommy/daddy are in charge, and will start to do it on her own....believe me this works I have a very strong willed child. Toddlers test you too see how much you will let the get away with.
2006-10-05 08:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋