2006-10-05 07:25:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah... but dont be a biitch about it
2006-10-05 07:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Some mother in laws go too far and some men are too much of a mommas boy. Once you get married your new family should come before your old one. That's just the way it is. And if your mother is making hard for you to have a good relationship with your wife or if your just too close to your mom for a grown adult man then she needs to be put on the back burner.
2006-10-05 07:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The day that the two of you got married was the day that you should be #1 in his eyes and He #1 in yours. However, no one should have to choose between the people they love the most. Try to all sit down and work it out, get along and love one another. If you can't, in the end, many of you will suffer and pay the price, even the innocent ones. God Bless.
2006-10-05 07:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, because boys are always closest to their moms anyway. Mom's are closest to their boy's too. If you want his mom as an enemy then go ahead and make him choose. Make sure that he includes you with some of the things he and his mom do and then leave some space for just him and his mom. Maybe they have been through some hard times together at some time other. Just be thankful it's his mom and not some other woman........
2006-10-05 07:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all use the "Check Spelling" button. If the husband is a mommies boy...yes He needs to grow up and be a man. Choose the the wife, and keep mom around for the weekly phone call.
2006-10-05 07:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mitch G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. My husband and his ex owned a piece of rental property together. The tenants were about to vacate the property; right around that time, my husband's father got very ill and had to be placed in a convalescent home, which was in walking distance from the rental property.
My husband wanted to let his mother stay in the home to be closer to his dad. She had agreed to pay rent, though she knew she didn't have to. His ex did not want the mother to have the house, and kept on him about it. She kept on him about it, and he told her not to make him choose. Well, he's my husband now so you know what happened.
You have to learn how to choose your battles. It wasn't hurting anyone for his mother to stay in that house. If he was giving all his money to his mother, neglecting his wife completely or allowing his mother to disrespect her, that's one thing. You have to know when you're being reasonable in your request and when you're just being petty.
2006-10-05 07:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a reasonable woman, the mother, then the wife should have the same respect. You married the guy...you got to know something about his relationship with his mother, right?
2006-10-05 07:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm you are not the first to propose such a solution -- nor the last one. I have heard umpteen stories of the same nature. the short answer is NO -- because it is against nature. the second answer is again No -- because the husband (or house bound guy better word) will never accept it freely with all his might and will and love. Now you must have a second option -- think about it. they say in life the train passes in front of us --twice -- if you don't grab it first time make sure you are ready for it the next time around. Now, your strike you missed the first run. are you ready for the second stop?
2006-10-05 07:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's never okay... Family Comes First... And in saying that The mans Mother was there before his wife... I know that he has to get out from under his mothers skirts some time... But you're mother gave Birth to you... Don't be quick to give her up for anything.. One day she will not be there and you will regret not spending time with her... time is precious with you're mother... never give that up for anything or anyone... Good Luck...
2006-10-05 07:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Nevaeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it. He is mainly supposed to be caring for his family, which would be his wife and children type thing. If he is with his mother all the time or choosing his mother over you for anything he needs to prioritize his life.
2006-10-05 08:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by KeKe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, when the mother is coming between them. This question would not have come up, if he honored his wife with the same respect and trust of guidance, as he does his mother.
2006-10-05 07:31:56 · answer #11 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋