Is my boyfriends adult daughter too attached to her dad?

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Is my boyfriends adult daughter too attached to her dad?
Hi. I've been dating this lovely man for about two years now. However his adult daughter seems not to think much of me. She's been cold to me for as long as I've known her. On the other hand I'm wondering if my boyfriends relationship with his daughter is a little bit too close. For ex.,





1. She's 25 yrs old and still calls her father daddy




2. They call each other every day and talk for about 30-45 minutes




3. She tells him everything




4. Her job requires her to be on her feet alot so she'll often come to her dad house and he'll rub her feet while they talk about their day.




5. When they take walks together they actually hold hands.




6. And finally, she doesn't think much of sitting on her dads lap and cuddling.








Is any of this unusual? I don't have any kids myself, and I wasn't very close to my own dad to know whats normal in a adult father-daughter relations

Answer 1

started quite normal then maybe sounded a li'l freaky, i;'d say they were too close but thats just my opinion

Answer 2

This is not an adult dtg and father MATURE relationship and he is def not setting appropriate boundaries with her.

There is little room for you here in your bf's life...move on.

Answer 3

# 4, 5, 6. Those are problems. #2 and 3 are suspect.
The only innocent one is #1.
I know that you have to follow your heart, but if it was me I would have been long gone out of that mess. It seems deviant.
This has been a long running thing obviously. It must have started with the father who set the bounds as to what is acceptable behavior.
I am sorry for the daughter b/c, she does not know what a normal healthy relationship with a father is.
You are far luckier my dear in that you did not have a "close" relationship with your father like the one you describe.
You deserve a normal man..........I hope you move on so that you can find one.
I do not believe that you can help the girl at this point, nor do I think she would want help.

Answer 4

Yeah, they're a little too close. Some things aren't that weird: I called my Dad "Daddy" until he died, as did my mother with my grandfather. It's all we've ever called them. My father and I saw each other every day, and probably talked that much or more. I got my Dad's thoughts on whether or not I should have my first "experience" with a guy when I was in college (I gave him a lot of credit for that one. In retrospect, it's a wonder he didn't blow a gasket). He told me we could talk about anything, so I blame that last one on him.

HOWEVER! The foot-rubbing, hand-holding, lap-sitting/cuddling is inappropriate. I only do that with my husband. My guess is that her mother is dead. She's just marking her territory and trying to let you know who's boss.

Talk to your boyfriend and see what his reaction is. Also, think about how serious you are about him, and if you are willing to deal with her for the rest of you life. If you love him and things move to marriage, this is only the tip of the iceberg.

Answer 5

No, you have every right to think something is wrong.
Cut the cord dad! Let your daughter have her own life!
And by you hanging on this much you have been smothering her with the over daddy itish. I have 6 kids, all are grown and love them very much, but this is an unhealthy relationship. And honey I'm still in my forty's, so
it's not that I am to old.

Oh, and by the way i bet she has souped up her act with
daddy because she is jeoulous of you. I'm sure she
is laying it extra thick. And Dad is eating it up, because
he is bringing another women into the picture. You are
diffently in a touchy sistuation! You need to put your
foot down and tell it like it is, because how much time
are u going to invest in this relationship, if it's not going
anywhere? Is the daughter the Apple of daddy's eye or
the only intrest in his life. You should be #1 !!!

Answer 6

Well, I'm 25 and I call my father daddy. I just think that they are very close and I think that is great. My dad and I are very close. When I go to see my parents I sit on the couch and cuddle with my dad but I don't see him but about once every couple of months. I talk to him everyday on the phone and I tell him everything. Rubbing her feet is a little much but I hold my dad's hand sometimes. I don't think their relationship is unusual. It's not right that she is so cold to you but she is just being overprotective of her dad. I'm sure she will eventually come around. Lots of luck!!

Answer 7

1. She's 25 yrs old and still calls her father daddy
***totally normal

2. They call each other every day and talk for about 30-45 minutes
***I live 7 miniutes away from my mom but we still talk on thephone everyday, so yes normal

3. She tells him everything
***Then ask him what she thinks of you

4. Her job requires her to be on her feet alot so she'll often come to her dad house and he'll rub her feet while they talk about their day.
***the word spoiled rotten comes to mind

5. When they take walks together they actually hold hands.
***Call Dr. Phil, NOW!!!!!

6. And finally, she doesn't think much of sitting on her dads lap and cuddling.
****RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! THEY ARE BOTH CRAZY, YOU DONT WANT TO BECOME APART OF THAT TYPE OF CULT!!!!

Answer 8

Well Some of it maybe a little weird like sitting in his lap and holding his hands when they walk but I am a daddy's girl too and I can talk more openly with my dad then with my mom..We also have the same sense of humor..so we get along really well and I still call him daddy!
Now the other side of it is....Has she just been doing this stuff to piss you off or did they do this before you? Maybe she is trying to get you jealous...Good Luck

Answer 9

Well I am 50 years old myself and dad is 83 now and I would do all that stuff that you named if I could. But my weight on him now would be a bit to much for him, no I am not fat either, I weigh 125 pounds, but that is too much for my dad. I do sit right be side him on the couch every chance I get. I am going to be there for both my parents every chance I get. Not long ago, before my brother passed away, him and I both did the "Baby Huey" thing with our parents, they always laughed thinking it was funny.

Answer 10

OOO. Who this is too close. Sitting on laps and cuddling, the feet rub, holding hands. SHE IS 25. Don't get in between them but I would say something, just don't sound jealous. Ask him why he does this.

Answer 11

The first three I didn't see a problem with, the last three, holding hands, cuddling on his lap and him rubbing her feet???? Are you sure that their isn't something very wrong going on here? Or that she is even his daughter???? Seems pretty sick to me, and everyone else here at work.