my husband is only child and for years i have done everything she wanted and helped her in every way but she thinks that she needs to know every detail about what goes on in my house. I told her to leave me alone and to not ever talk to me ever again. was i being to harsh for her butting in and trying to tell my whole family what to do and so forth.......
2006-10-05 07:14:22 · 10 answers · asked by threeofakind_ar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make a stand. She will rule your life if you let her. I had a mother in law that was like that. I had to straight out tell her to mind her own business. My ex wife got pissed. We eventually broke up because her mother was more important than me.
2006-10-05 07:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Clyde R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little harsh. Mother-in-laws can be quite difficult even more so since you married her only son. But, at the same time try to remember that he's her only child and understand a little more. I'm not saying to let your Mother-in-Law walk all over you but you might want to kindly suggest some boundaries. Perhaps you said those things in the midst of anger. Talk to her and let her know how her actions make you feel and you might want to involve your Husband in this because he's your other half and let him know how you feel as well. My advice to you is to make amens for the your family, husband and children and especially for yourself and your own piece of mind. Remember there are ways to be stern and direct without being rude. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-05 07:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and I'm only engaged. His mother and father drive me absolutely insane. I think they think they are the partridge family or something. They want us to drive from north jersey to bumble f*** PA all the time. During the holidays, I’ve never seen anything like it; they drag every single free moment you have out and beat it to death with a stick. They don’t sleep; I swear to god you can’t take a piss in that house without someone there with you. It’s horrible. So about a month ago they were having another one of their ridiculous “family reunions” (what they haven’t seen each other in 5 days! Oh no) and this did it for me. His mother wanted to rent a van and drive 4 hours with the entire family cramped in the van together (wait it gets better) at 8:00 in the morning on a Saturday! Just kill me now. There is no way I am putting up with this and now I have to deal with their little ***** comments, “oh you hate Pennsylvania”, yes I do, I do hate the middle of nowhere and I don’t want to drive out to kiss your assess for an entire weekend. So to answer your question, uh um, yeah they drive me to insane ramblings on yahoo answers lol. Good luck to you! There should be some kind of laws mother in-laws have to abide by! Who’s with me?
2006-10-05 07:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was too harsh, but I would probably have been tempted to say the same thing. She needs to realize that her "baby" is married now and has his own family. She is definitely not respecting you or her son. I wonder how her mother-in-law was with her??? Don't know if it would help for you to talk to her or not but you might want to try for your husband's sake. And for your sake I hope he backs you!!
Try having a talk with her about mutual respect and boundaries. You may want to throw something in there about grandchildren. Don't think she would want to risk alienating you and her son and then not seeing her grandkids someday!
Yes, I have a mother-in-law that will lie, whine, whatever it takes to have the spotlight on her. Thank God most people know what she's like and usually ignore her.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 07:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my husbands mom and we have been together for 11 years now and i can tell you what i finally did and that is the next time she ask you about you business like if you paid you rent ,lights ,gas and things like this then just answer then after she is all done ask her the same Questions back and when she asks you why your asking about something that's not your business then tell her that you figured that if you had to answer things to her that wasn't her business then why can't you do the same and then tell her that the day she pays all your bills and runs your house will be the day she can ask about your personal life and if she is any thing like my mother in law she will shut her mouth and believe it or not we have gotten along better in the last two years since i did that . hope this helps you as much as it did me good luck
2006-10-06 16:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you....I have an over bearing m-i-l tooo! my husband is also an only child. My m-i-l snoops everytime she gets a chance. I think part of this is due to the fact that my Husband had always let them know everything in his life...including banking, dating, and cleaning his house. I know it has been a big ajustment for her....but i am very independant and it drives me nuts. I have confronted my husband about this. I have told his parents that our financial business is none of their. I have asked that they knock on our door and wait until one of us answer---they just just tap and walk in, I call them my Arkansas Hillbillies. My husband wants his name put farm trust fund but I wont put him on it until they are gone.....my money is not going to be questioned. They frequently whine about how hard off they are and "might need a loan". I am battling cancer, I am not giving them the money benefits I am recieving from AFLAC! That money is mine to help pay our bills while I am sick. Hold your ground and I will thinking of you.
2006-10-05 11:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...my ex mother in law used to always get in my marriage and decisions were made by her alot of the time. my ez wasnt an only child but he was the oldest of 2 boys. my ex's father had left them when they were really young so i guess the mother was overprotective. she wound up remarrying another man who adopted them. to make a long story short. i ignored her and respected her no matter what. of course she got on my nerves and me and my ex didnt make it in our marriage because of alot that had to with her. she defended him when he treated me bad. after 7 years...i let him go for good. now...me and my ex dont talk at all. funny thing is....she calls me all the time cause she misses me and now her and her husband are about to divorce and she always calls me for advice. WOW! you know what they say about payback! lol. so maybe sit down talk to her and tell her not to butt in your marriage (in a nice way) unless she is asked to. if she insists then see her as little as possible but keep a relationship for your husbands sake and if you have kids.
2006-10-05 13:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Becky S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I think you were..You could've just told her to back off a little and to mind her own business and that you and your husband will share with her what..you want to share with her....I have one that drives me nuts too. That's what I do..I just have to remind her sometimes..Good Luck
2006-10-05 07:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MIL OR MY STEPMIL, BOTH ARE CONDESENDING B*TCH*S. LIKE TO TALK S*H*I*T BEHIND MY BACK.
2006-10-05 07:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him way you feel
2006-10-05 09:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋