They have put me in a depressed state. They won't listen. They are running me over like a frieght train.
2006-10-05 07:12:00 · 13 answers · asked by Dottie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My family is 3 kids and 2 grandkids.
2006-10-05 07:17:51 · update #1
I am a single parent. The father is not in the picture, he is gone and been gone for years.
Kids are ages 29, 26, and 16 and grandkids are 6 and 8. The 16 year old is still home, but my two older kids think they can control my life. Or don't think I have one.
2006-10-05 07:57:06 · update #2
Maybe talking with a best friend or seeing a family therapist might help if you are depressed.
I think explaining to them about how you feel without yelling at them would be a better way to handle this.
You don't say if you are a single parent or not. I am just guessing that you are alone in this situation. Sometimes calling a family meeting to discuss issues that arise helps some families cope with hard times.
2006-10-05 07:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dottie,
All mothers feel like that some times but it is not good for your children to hear you say that, by doing so you are telling them they are winning, and that just can't happen. You are the adult!!
I have no idea how old your children are or if the father is in the home. Your children have lost respect for you and you have lost control but, it's not too late. If your children are small enough I would bet you don't believe in a good spanking, or they wouldn't act the way they do. It's not a pleasant thing to do but, sometimes it is very neccessary. The good Lord gave them well padded little behinds just for such an occasion, just be sure your temper is in check and limit to a few firm smacks, if they cry all the better because they will remember it next time you tell them if they misbehave they will get a spanking. Never threaten them and not follow up or you will be right back where you started. Always follow up with you telling them you love them, but you didn't like the way they were acting.
With an older child, the best thing to do is take a priveledge away from them, something that they think they can't live without, and stick to you guns, don't threaten without action.
It's up to you to hold them accountable for their actions.
You can do this, you will be a lot happier and believe it or not so will your children, they need rules and boundries.
If the father is in the home he needs to be the head of the household and take charge and make it very clear that any disrespect towards you will be dealt with by him.
I hope this helps.
2006-10-05 14:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by yakity_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe not yelling that statement at them but try explaining it to them,if they still wont listen,write a note about how you feel stick it on the fridge or the bathroom door,someone is sure to read it and respond,i am not saying a suicide note either,death is permanent your problem is temporary,just give them a wake up call with the note,if your family cares they should talk to you about how you are feeling if not find a trusted friend or someone who you do trust and talk about it until you bawl like a baby,sometimes all the body needs is a good cry
2006-10-05 14:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by onyxpryzm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Dottie. I just read this ques. Also the answers. Brat hit it dead on. You are not alone with this. You do have friends here who can help; they have experienced your pain, they care, they tell you the truth when it is vital that they do, and many do not pull thier punches. First off -- don't blame your kids. Your depression is not thier fault. It is not your fault. I have a condition called Severe prolonged acute combat PTSD. You gotta find others who share these feelings in your area and talk them out. Your life depends on it. We gotta talk. Suicide is for cowards. Period. You don't sound that selfish to me. You gotta move on this. Do it. Now. Rat
2006-10-06 15:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Raptor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, slow down. Death is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If anything stay alive to live long enough to anger the ones driving you toward depression. Don't let them win. There is no shame in getting help. Ask a trusted friend/teacher.
2006-10-05 14:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole family need to sit together and go over the situation .
Something will work out!!
Nothing is Impossible!
2006-10-05 14:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by raj_sharmausa@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best you learn to fight back. Take off for a couple of days and let them be on their own, and see how they like it without you.
2006-10-05 14:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should speak to someone if youre just a child which you sound like you are.
2006-10-05 14:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by daisymayNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help to let them know how you feel and how badly they are hurting you.
2006-10-05 14:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it would help and they would listen i would hope if they didnt wow then run away or something
2006-10-05 14:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by psycho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋