hello i'm a very confused person and i need your help i realy need helpi think that i'm pregnet and my boyfriend realy wants me to be he is so happy and i rrealy want to be if i'm not how do i deal with the pain and torment that we will go throu and what is the best way to get pregnat when you and your boyfriend live 30 miles away and see each other every other weekend out side of school.
and if i'm not then i need to get pregnate cause this is just what we need. we have done every think to secure our relationship and now it's time to get what we both want i have been geting sick of the mornings and i realy can't eat a lot do you think that i'm pregnate.
2006-10-05 07:11:53 · 26 answers · asked by lover_gurl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First you should make sure that you ARE pregnant. Go to the clinic or take a pregnancy test to find out. If you are pregnant, make sure that you get a pelvic exam done. This will estimate how long you have been pregnant. You have some choices if you are pregnant. 1) chose to have the baby 2) chose to have the baby and place her/him for adoption 3) chose to end the pregnancy. There's no right or wrong reason choice for everyone. There's a lot of thinking to do. Ex: which choice could i live with? which choice would be impossible for me? how would it effect me? what is going on in my life? what can i afford? what are my plans for the future? what do i believe is the best for me? etc. TALK to your partner about your feelings, someone in your family, or a trusted friend. Look for a clinic that will give you complete information about your options. If you need help, call your local Planned Parenthood center. If there is a chance that you will continue the pregnancy — you should begin prenatal care as soon as possible. You should have a medical exam early in your pregnancy to make sure that you are healthy and the pregnancy is normal.
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2006-10-05 08:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your confusion is. Are you sure you are ready to have a child with someone who lives 30 miles away and you only see each other every other weekend? When you are pregnant you need support all the time, not twice a month. Also, after the baby comes how would it work out with him so far away? If you are pregnant, you need to talk about making some changes, can you live together if one of you changes schools? Is marriage something you have considered? If you aren't pregnant, it might be better to work out all these issues before you get pregnant.
2006-10-05 07:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very immature. There is much more that you consider before bringing a child into the world. Why do you find that you would settle for so little for yourself or for your baby? Why are you offering a baby a "boyfriend" rather then a committed parenthood through marriage? Your relationship isn't secure and such a statement is a demonstration of your lack of maturity your relationship is secure when both of you are emotionally and financially ready to offer a baby a good start in life through marriage. You are very selfish. You have one thing right you are very confused. Work on getting your self esteem in order and ask yourself why you are settling for so little in life. And to offer a baby basically nothing is shameful.
2006-10-05 07:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is find out if you are pregnant. Go out to the doctor or get a personal tester. If you are not pregnant, sturdy your relationship and get married before you have a child. But if you are, get in gear and do what is right for your kid and make sure its father stands with his family. Also, think hard about this decision, it sounds like you are young, don't do something you will regret, a family is a lot of responsibility. Do what is right for you and let yourself grow through your young years( there aren't many of them.)
2006-10-05 07:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pregnacy test. How old are you anyway?? Babies are a lot of work. You should be married, not going to school, and have a good job BEFORE you think of having kids. Please think of all the time and energy it takes to raise a child. I had my daughter when I was 15 and I was not ready to raise her. I have done my best but I know now that I have made a lot of mistakes. So please, if you are not pregnate, WAIT. Get your life in order, make sure that you can support your child. GET MARRIED.
2006-10-05 07:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkinhoney2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart how old are you? Not to be mean mama you didnt even spell pregnant right.... and babies are alot of work honey, and babies dont secure relationships. baby im Pregnant, this is my second time 3rd child, I have 2 twin girls and im only 18 my babydaddy dont want nothing to do with me, i thought we were going to stay together, now look at us he talkin to some other girl, he is not worried about me we went out for 3 1/2 years and we were in "love" he told me that we were going to be together "forever" this boy ment the world to me he was even my first.... so how do u think i feel now that hes not here? he problatly telling that other girl tha same thing he told me.... but what im sayin is Sweetheart you dont truly truly know what your getting your self into. and if you are pregnant you need to go to the doctor and get checked up but if your not baby take it slow and think about what your doing... because no baby dont keep you and no boy together......
2006-10-05 08:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by [38 wks] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are, but how old are you? Sounds like you are a little young and just want to jump into parenting. Make absolute sure this is what you want. Having a baby is a lot of stress. As far as the getting pregnant if you are not. Talk to a doctor. They can give you tips as to how to make yourself pregnant when you are trying to have a baby, and health tips to ensure you dont miscarry. Good luck with that, you sure sound young.
2006-10-05 07:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your going to school and you guys only see each other every other weekend then thats already a issue and you really should wait until you are married and out of school, a baby can make things worse then they already are for example you are pregnate and what you go to school until you deliever then your out of school for about 3 to 4 months then you have to worry about who's going to watch your child and how am I going to pay for the things the child needs because trust me on this raising a child is expansive and how do you know if he is really the right person for you
2006-10-05 07:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by carypratt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling. 4 months after my (now 14 months) daughter was born i found out i was pregnant again (making baby #5) i fell into A SEVER depression as i didnt want another baby so soon. my husband was excited then 2 months later after i thought everything was fine an we came to terms as having a baby again i woke up in a pool of blood. we were so disapointed and heart broke. well im expecting again( baby #5) in 3 weeks its another girl and ive had no problems. it will hurt but practice makes perfect. make sure he wears boxers briefs restrict the testicles and have sex about every 2-3 days if possible.( theres a parking lot, bathroom, field, who knows make it interesting so you will have a story about how you concieved your baby. hope this helps
2006-10-05 07:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up, learn to spell and dump the guy. Getting pregnant will not secure your relationship. Pregnancy and child rearing put a big strain on an allready unhealthy relatioship!! Wait until you are older, married and living closer thatn 30 miles apart!! And when you are done with school!! GROW UP!!!!!
2006-10-05 07:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋