This is concerning having an orgasim during intercourse?

Question

I have been with numerous men (no not the slut type amount) with different sizes, different ways they move,etc and whether on top or bottom i have never had an orgasim during intercourse. Now the only factor i can think of for this promblem is that i was molested numerously since the age of 2-14 and one of them had intercourse with me at the age of 12. It hurt like hell like most first time intercourses do but could there be a certain reason why i do not have a orgasim during intercourse.

yes i do have orgasim by myshelf and orally thank you all for your answers and for those of you who are concerned about my counseling i did for 10 years. its just nice to know i am not the only one

Answer 1

Don't worry, honey, it's perfectly natural. 70% percent of women cannot achieve orgasm by penetration - it's a simple medical fact. It has nothing to do with our emotional or mental state or sexual history - it's just biology. Most women need clitorial stimulation to achieve orgasm. Explain this fact to your partners and ask them to give you oral sex or clitorial stimulation before the regular intercourse (since they might fall asleep after they get their orgasm).

It's wonderful that your early tragic molestation hasn't prevented you from embracing a healthy sexuality. Good for you!

Answer 2

There can be a few reasons why you do not have an orgasm.
1) Psychological: If you subconsciously revert you mind back to when you were molested you may still have feelings of shame and guilt associated with sex. Your mind cannot get over the hump because it may be some unresolved issues there. If this is that case you need to get some professional help. Sex is an intimate act that is 90% mental and 10% physical. If you mental desires are not aligned with your physical you will have a lackluster sex life.

2) Know you body: may be it is not knowing what position will help you to achieve orgasm get some fact based sex books and read up. Some women don't have earth-shattering orgasms every time. some are more mellow and can last from a few seconds to a few minutes. We are all differently made. I would suggest that you show yourself some "Self love" and see if you can climax that way. You must find out what you like and don't like alone, then when you are intimate with a lover you can direct them to where your pleasure zones are.

Lastly, RELAX if you are too worried about "getting yours" you won't because ur mind is pre occupied. Try this: Have sex with no expectations if it happens it happens and u will be more relaxed and able to achieve climax

Answer 3

Clitorial Orgasim

Answer 4

From your question it sound like you have an orgasim while masterbating. If this is true (and I hope it is) there is no reason what it cant happen while having sex. Have you tried to help yourself while having sex? Realize, you are not the only one. A male friend of mine told me he had sex with a recently divorced woman who told him that he was the first one to give her the big O' so there's always hope..

Answer 5

To Answer your question with a question... Are you able to have an orgasm alone? If so your problem isn't entirely uncommon. A lot of women can not or do not experience orgasms during intercourse. You may want to incorporate a vibrator into the physical intercourse.

Answer 6

Try rubbing your clitoris during penetration. That is a sure way to get an orgasm. You need to masturbate more often to make sure you know where is the right spot for you. That way you can tell your partner to rub that spot.

Answer 7

Counselling-NOW you should not be asking a question like this on answer.yahoo.com....and anyone who tries to give you an answer other than that is a damn fool

Answer 8

It's more than likely psychological.. you should probably talk to a counselor of some sort.