Guys, a bit of help....?

Question

I know this girl and we get on really well, my parents adore her (infact my mother keeps trying to get me and her together) and she gets on well with my friends. We have hooked up a few times, but thats generally after drunken nights out. I really like her, but shes fat.
I have always said I wouldnt go for a big girl, I've never found them attractive before, but shes got this sexy aura thing going on. Im afraid that if I start going with her my friends are going to rip the piss royaly. I have another girl ive been seeing for a few weeks, shes gorgeous and cute, and we ge on well but no where near the same as me and this other bird, I could talk to her about anything.

Im 24 and the girls are both 18

What shall I do, get with the big bird and dump the hottie?
Or
Stay friends with the big girl, and date the hottie?

I know women are going to rip me down for asking this question, but guys what would you do?

Cheers

Answer 1

and you're 24? you sound like you are under 18. i will give you the benefit of a doubt and give you a decent answer, which should have been obvious to you already. why don't you get together with the one you get along with emotionally. being a bit overweight should not be a criterion for a relationship. your attraction to the "hottie" is purely physical, so what will happen if you get together with her and she decides that she no longer needs to be a "hottie" will you still like her?

good luck.

Answer 2

Tough one mate. (heh, I'm not really british, but it's fun to try). Anyways, Big girls can slim down, but slim girls can blow up too. If you're actually thinkin of marrying one of these girls, I'd say go with the one you get along with better, that being the bigger gal. In years to come, sex will matter less and less and conversation will matter more and more.

That's the logical answer, anyways. In reality, I have a similar problem, and though I know what I SHOULD do, the hottie is still pretty tempting. You be strong, I'll work on that, and hopefully 50 years down the road we'll both look back and smile for having made the right choice.

Answer 3

Honestly?

I'd probably lose them both after an awkward drunken three-way.

Then I'd patch things up with the heavier girl and have fun until I found another cute little hottie... then screw everything up with yet another drunken three-way that wouldn't be as awkward as the first.

I'd probably keep doing this until my sex life consisted of either amazing drunken/non-drunken three ways... or me alone constantly trying to get two chicks at the same time again.

I'm glad I'm married and gave up the single life... didn't give up the occasional three way though in fact, they are a bit more common.

Things work out.

I'm the envy of my friends, who are generally drunken single guys who've never had three ways... who's laughin now?

Answer 4

Man, go with your heart. "People who matter don't mind...people that mind, don't matter". I had an old track coach that was just a skinny little guy, and his wife is about 250-300, and they have three kids together and are the happiest ever. Worried what your friends will think? Hell...have them put your clothes out for you in the morning too. If you are 24 and can't make your own decisions, leave both of them to someone better and get your crap together.

Answer 5

Well Chris !! this is an odd situation,, I think u shud take some time and think wht u want ,,, u are just 24 and if u are completely smitten by ur girl then it wont matter if she is Big or not ,, the real thing which is required in a long term relationship is " LEVEL OF COMFORT" and that is the thing which matters most , I hope u have got ur answer,, if not u can contact me on [e-mail] ..

cheers

Answer 6

well pimp I tell you this. If you want to stay with the big girl just make her lose weight I mean go to the gym with her cook some healthy food for her if she is the one you want. She can always lose weight man just follow your heart. I perosonaly am a shallow guy and would go with the cute one but dont worry about your firends thats is what they do. After they make fun of you, you are still standing they are still your friends and everything is still the same good luck

Answer 7

its a tricky situation both sound great,i say go for the big girl she has the love and respect of your family plus your emotional connection is stronger which will translate into a deeper love also watch out for beautiful girls because some turn out to be heart breakers in the end, and above all f u c k what your friends are going to say thats just a big sign of weakness on your part buddy. good luck!!!

Answer 8

Yeah. I like this waitress, she's real cute, but I'm married and married I'm going to stay. So I understand completely. And, the waitress has a boyfriend, too, but I tip her well. So, that's just the thing, Chris. It's like, these decisions, they're really important. I mean, Shakespeare wondered whether it was better "to be" or "not to be"--what did he know! I mean, we can always theorize about God, but hey, why bother when there are women?

Answer 9

sounds to me that you have real chemistry with the bigger girl ( i wish i knew her name so i didn't have to call her that)
but anyway, why fight chemistry...after time looks fade but usually having the right chemistry with someone holds true.
you never mentioned love either, so why not just keep going with both for awhile and just see how things go with both, that would give you a true answer, you are young and so are they, so don't think about long term too much, you still have time to have fun. be sure not to hurt anyone though in the process.
don't let your friends tell you who you should date...seriously that very immature.
good luck!!

Answer 10

First. Don't drop your standards... If you want a girl with a butt then get a girl with a badonkadonk if you want a girl with titties then get some DD's whatever your standards are don't drop them....

Because that's what is attracting her to you now...it's obvious that she is hitting the switches when it comes to your other standards which is attracting you to her...and subsequently lead to you two sleeping together.

Take the girl to the gym....and tell her in so many words what why you're doing it...if you're worth it and she wants to go then she'll go if not then you have to either settle or move on.