2006-10-05 06:44:10 · 12 answers · asked by jopink79 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The child would be c of e but i don't know the family very well and was shocked to be asked.( i met here 7 months ago )
I am looking for a get out clause to be honest, as i will not be involved with this familiy in future, so it is unfair to them. I am not religious but i don't belive in lieing also she said she is ony doing it to have a party and this is the reason we never christened our own daughter as it is hypocritical.
2006-10-05 07:02:58 · update #1
The child would be c of e but i don't know the family very well and was shocked to be asked.( i met her7 months ago )
I am looking for a get out clause to be honest, as i will not be involved with this familiy in future, so it is unfair to them. I am not religious but i don't belive in lieing also she said she is ony doing it to have a party and this is the reason we never christened our own daughter as it is hypocritical.
2006-10-05 07:04:00 · update #2
Politely say no. Say, things like, I'm sorry, I am not of your religion, I'm sorry, but I do not even go to church, I'm sorry, but I do not feel like I am the best person to ask to do this. Take the responsibility on yourself, use "I" statements, rather that using "you" statements, things like,{you are talking to her] you stupid jerk, how disrepectful of the minister and the religion can you be?
Anyway, you do not have to have a christening to have a party! She could have a welcome to the world party, people will understand she is not religious, and still bring gifts!
Some churches demand that the godparents be of that faith, some strongly suggest it. That is the whole idea, to make sure the child is brought up in that religion, should their parents die, or be unable to make that decision.
Use the truth, it leaves very little room for her to get mad at you. Anyway, the minister meets with the parents, and often the prospective god parents to plan the ceremony, rehearse, and for the minister to judge the participants sincerity.
2006-10-05 07:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well when my sister asked me to be my nephews godmother I said O.K but the vicar asked if I was Christened and I said no so he said I had 2 options I either didnt be the childs godmother or I got christened at the same time as my nephew and therefor would be allowed to be his godmother. I can now tell you I am the childs godmother, Getting christened at 17 is more embarrasing than you think!!
2006-10-05 06:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jo. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be baptized. Its no big deal, a little water on the forehead, The priest can do it at the ceremony. Then you confirm your rejection of Satan and all his works (means, ways, and minions), and other variations come in here. Even in the Roman Catholic church there are subtle differences even between Dominican and Franciscan. It's a nice ceremony though. You will most likely enjoy it. I will become Godfather to another child in December. This is my third this year.
2006-10-05 06:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it is advised since (historically) the role of a godparent is: in the event that the parents die, the godparents (normally family or close friends) would raise the child and continue with the religious upbringing. Godparents now adays don't do that, it's just a title of honor.
2006-10-05 06:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by sister steph 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As godmother you have a share in the responsiblity for the spiritual welfare of the child.
2006-10-05 06:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by lordofthetarot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if its in a roman catholic church you have to have made your confirmation and to do that you must be christened and make first holy Communion
2006-10-05 06:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by angel 36 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2006-10-05 06:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by lily_tuesday 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think being christened would make any difference
2006-10-05 06:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just lie and tell them you are
2006-10-05 06:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think so....
But it may depend on which christian sect you belong to
2006-10-05 06:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by JerseyRick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋