I'm a sophmore in highschool and a virgin. Not many people (in my school especially) can say that. I get ragged on all the time because I haven't done anything with a guy. I haven't even had my first kiss yet. People call me a lesbian since I haven't done anything with a guy, but I don't feel that I should have to get laid to prove that I'm straight. Is it bad that I haven't done anything? Or are people just being stupid?
2006-10-05 06:44:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You should be able to lose your virginity when you are ready to, and only you can decide that. If it is important to you to wait in til your married wait. Once you are out of school you will realize that most of those people don't even matter. Please don't let a guy decide when you should lose it. Do it for yourself and only yourself..
Coming from a guy!!!!
2006-10-05 06:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Rhenos 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The latter honey.
To me you sound like a Gem.A cleft out of the rocks.Why on earth do you have to care about what other people have to say when the only real thing that matters is what you have proven to your self.Easier said than done i know,But is it not TRUE.
To be honest you are unique, and dont ever let someone else bring you down cause they can't. Try your best to lose your virginity when you are going to get married,thats your choice not mine but i can give my opinion.Having sex when your young is such a danger and a drag even though it is seems to appear as a worn out garment.Deseases,Pregnency,Pressure in life and all the other pathetic and sorrowful factors that follow all of it, for just a few minutes of plesure with a guy!! which can reflect on your life so badly with a slight mistake.Get a REALITY CHECK!!!
I think you should believe in your heart and decide for your self what is right.The only way for people to remeber and stay away from such acts is to see it with ones, own eyes and even feel it ones self.Secondly why the hell is it there problem to care whether you are a virgin or not,let them ruin their own lives and you, just enjoy watching it instead of letting them get to you.The only reason they do, do this to you is just to get in your pants.
By me writing such an answer like this im sure you must be thinking im some parent lol ,hehe well actually im under 20 and over 16..!!!!! YEP wisdom comes with the right choices in life..I do hope you do make the right choice and dont make the wrong one and regret it for the rest of your LIFE. So think ppl and make life easier for you..
PS: Condoms and Pills dont always gurantee results,the probability of a mistake is not that low as you think it is.Patience is rewarding..hehe
~A person that cares~
2006-10-05 07:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited until I felt comfortable with a man, and I waited until I was in love with a man. I waited until I was ready. It was the night of my 22nd birthday. It was the best experience ever! I'm so happy I waited, I cannot express it well enough. The sex is much better with someone you love and trust.
I broke it off with this guy years later and we remained friends until he married. I must say that waiting was great, and it's a wonderful love story. The guy didn't mind waiting for me, and we were dating for 6 mos. before doing it, and it was all in my control. We didn't have that kind of peer pressure when I was in high school I guess, or maybe my friends didn't care whether I had sex or not!
I felt it was time when I was 21 and still a virgin, but that was the right time for me, after I was educated and knew more about my body and birth control and orgasms. You aren't a lesbian unless you love women, and there's nothing wrong with it, so people shouldn't use the word as a put down or to pressure you.
Don't give up your virginity, give up people who want you to be like them so they don't feel so bad that they didn't wait. Believe me, it was really easy to say "no, I don't want to do that with you" all of those years...besides you can do other things like kiss, etc.!
Keep active in things you enjoy, and you'll be too busy for sex. I was involved in drama and choir and acting lessons and dance lessons. People don't have to know what you have and haven't done. You don't have to kiss and tell, it's not anyone's business but your own. Keep an air of mystery around yourself, who knows? You might be involved with someone long distance, or whatever. It's no one's business but your own because you own your body and have to live with your own self worth every day. Don't let other folks take that away from you. When you are really ready you will know, be it at age 16 or 24, and I want it to be a positive experience for you, not something you regret like many of my friends. At your age you don't need any more problems like what sex can bring.
2006-10-05 07:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by CruelNails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are just being stupid. You are doing the right thing by not following along with the group just to be a part of it. You're choosing to wait until YOU'RE ready and not just because it's the 'thing' with everyone else. I think it's so dumb when people brag that they've had sex...in high school. Shows just how they lack the maturity and understanding necessary for such an event.
It's not bad that you haven't done anything. There are people that have graduated high school, in there twenties that haven't done anything because they just aren't ready to and won't allow people to pressure them into it.
You're only in high school for a few years, which seems like a long time to put up with their name-calling and false assumptions, but soon enough, high school will be over. You'll be able to surround yourself with mature people and you'll be able to choose when and if you'd like to have sex, without pressure. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone but you.
2006-10-05 07:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older you will learn that most of what people say and do is because they are stupid. You will be old enough to lose your virginity when you no longer need to ask this question. You should only do those things that you feel comfortable doing. Don't let the ******* peer-pressure you into doing anything for which you are not ready.
2006-10-05 06:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
People are being stupid. High schoolers are traditionally mean, hurtful, follow-the-crowd kind of people, and if you stand out in any way they'll let you have it.
It's that way for all of us, but the key to remember is that while words can hurt, they shouldn't change the way we live our lives. We all get labeled at one time or another - you, me, the Pope even (I'm sure, although I haven't actually called him and asked him). What matters is that we find ways to shrug it off and realize that those people who label us don't have an original thought in their heads.
You lose your virginity when you want to and when you're ready to. When that is shouldn't be up to Yahoo! Answers dorks like me, nor is it up to Stacie Cheerleader and the Airhead Squad.
2006-10-05 06:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Brian L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are being stupid. Your sexually active friends are putting themselves in danger of disease, pregnancy, guilt, lack of self respect/self asteem..... They will, one day, be sorry.
Why invite problems. You have enough to be concerned about without deliberately looking for more.
I have wondered what will show up in the future because of such looseness in this area. More sexual diseases are present today than ever before and it comes from having sex so freely with a number of partners. It is very true that when having sex, one is having sex with everyone the other person has had sex with.
Have fun while you can. Sex is not 'fun'.
Your right. They are wrong.
2006-10-05 07:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are being STUPID!! Don't listen to them! I was only 16 when I lost my virginity to a boy that I was "deeply in love with". We even got engaged! Then I found out that he was cheating on me!
My self esteem was really messed up after that. At 18, I became pregnant with my son. (I had only been dating this guy for 2 months! I thought that I was SUPPOSED to have sex to make a guy happy and/or want me)
I am 44 years old today. Would I have done things differently? ABSOLUTELY!! I have a terrific son (now age 25) and my husband is good to me, (we got married when I found out about the pregnancy) But I never got to experience being an "adult" on my own. I never went to college, never had my "own" apartment, etc.
Stay true to YOURSELF!!! They say life is short...well, it passes much quicker when you have to start worrying about diapers, and bottles, and new school clothes for your kid.....
Best of luck to you!
2006-10-05 06:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, all those other people are idiots. You shouldn't have sex until you are emotionally and financially capable of caring for a child. Who the hell wants to risk making their life more difficult by having a kid in HS.
Just call them sluts or say "there isn't anyone for me to do anything with because they are all at your house" or that "there isn't anyone left that you haven't given an STD to." It's probably the truth.
You can't try to speed up these things. They happen when they happen.
2006-10-05 06:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad that you haven't done anything! You should be proud that you haven't just had casual sex with someone that you don't truly care about. The people in your school may be setting themselves up for unplanned pregnancy & STDs. I would suggest that you wait until you've found someone that you truly care about and you feel that they like you back. You should really want to do it. Congratulations on waiting. I wish I would have...
2006-10-05 06:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by TheLibster 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋