I have an ex we are 7 yrs apart wen i was 15 he was 22 thats wen we started going out... im not gonna lie he is my first love... well wen i was 16 he got locked up for two years and i stayed by his side... so now he got out and at times he wants to be with me but there are times i try to avoid him... he was my best friend but he has done so much to hurt me and now he is callin me all the time tryin to hang out with me and take me out... the problem is everytime i see him my feelings seem to come back... wat should i do should i avoid him?? i need help he is my first love but i just cant go through that pain again
2006-10-05 06:41:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i need more advice help me out guys... its like i knoe he has a bad history but dont we all and yea i have a new boyfriend now and it is realli botherin him that i do
2006-10-05 08:10:09 · update #1
well your doing the right thing in trying to stay away form him and it sounds like he loves you but he hurts you and that's not a healthy relationship. and if its not healthy its poisonis to you
so tell him that if he really loves you then he will leave you alone and that its better for you to not to see him and if he respects your wishes then he really does care about you but if he doesn't leave you alone then he doesn't care about you as much as he says and that's when you tell him not so nicely to leave
2006-10-05 06:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First 15 is way to young to be involved with a 22 year old . Him going to jail traumatized you . He put you through at age 15 more then most woman go through at 30 . But some good has come out of this . You don't feel right when he pursues you . Why you ask ? Because you have out grown him . You have seen at such a tender age how rough life can be . You don't want to have to go through the rest of your life being hurt . Bottom line . Your a adult now . And you have moved on . The thing about not seeing him any more is just that . Tell him you will always love him as your first love . But you have to have some living to do . Don't be afraid of hurting his feelings . He did enough to last you a life time . Besides do you want to be with a man that you know could go to jail . Your young . Live life .You got a taste of the down side now go for the up side . Good Luck !
2006-10-05 07:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a hard 1 but if you really feel like you don't want to be around him then you shouldn't. He might be your first love but you dont want to put yourself in a bad situation again so don't avoid him as much but talk to him. But if he's not one you can talk to like that then seperate yourself from him and date other people. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 06:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the best thing you can do is be honest with him and be honest with yourself. It's okay to love people and care about people from your past and not be "with" them. Just tell him how you feel about him and how u feel about the situation. Let him know that you cannot let yourself go through all that hurt again. In the end, you'll be glad that you were honest about it. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 06:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how painful it is for you to see him. I believe that we never recover from our 'first loves', and if you keep accepting his calls and invites out you will continue to set yoursel p for heartache. make some new frinds and move on.
2006-10-05 06:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think he will stay straight & not cause more pain I think I would ease out of the relationship & look else where..
2006-10-05 06:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no good for you. There is something wrong with him that he can't find a girl his own age. He's preying on you. He sounds like he's no good. Why do girls stay with men that are criminals? I never did understand that.
2006-10-05 06:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzybunny95531 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you haven't told him that you do not want to see him anymore. start by being honest with yourself and then be honest with him.
2006-10-05 06:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad character corrupts, neednt say more.
2006-10-05 06:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋