2006-10-05 06:39:20 · 16 answers · asked by FLORIDA 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
By the way..I'm a navy wife.Just trying to get use to the military world.I meet a lote of women that are full of themselves
2006-10-05 07:34:45 · update #1
no i don't think so, but a lot of us do think are husbands have a job that we can be proud that there doing, i'm 24 and have been married over 3 years, i don't have any kids but it seems to me a lot of military wives after they get married have kids and get fat and ugly, even my friends have noticed that, its seems like they don't care anymore or something?
2006-10-05 07:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by AFwife 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
No, not at all. It's usually said that officers wives wear their husbands rank and they're stuck up. After 18 years as an Army wife, I can say that even that isn't true.
However, military wives are a tight group of women. We have alot in common and often have to rely on each other for support. Sometimes, I'm sure to the civilian world it may appear we're stuck up, but we've had to learn how to survive and get by, often on our own.
So no, military wives are not stuck up. I'll say HI to anyone!!
EDIT: With your added info, I can add more. Yes, many wives today seem full of themselves. Back when we joined, the older wives took the younger wives under their wing and helped them. We learned alot from the older ones and we appreciated them. I can honestly say, it's not that way today. The younger wives come in thinking they already know everything and there's nothing we can do to help them. It's a shame, but it happens. Not all new wives are this way and you're apparently trying to learn. I recommend that you head to some of the wives that have been around. They can be a great deal of help if you let them. Just a warning, they can be protective and they don't mean anything bad by it. Just give them a chance.
2006-10-05 07:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry that you've had some bad experiences with Military wives, but honestly, we're not all like that.
I have made some really good friends that are Military wives, and they are the greatest women in the world. It's nice to be able to talk to them about all the stuff we have to deal with as Military families, because my civilian friends have no idea how difficult this life can be!
Seriously, don't judge all of them based on a few. You might be missing out on some really wonderful friendships.
2006-10-05 09:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No most of us aren't, but unfortunately there are those among us who actually think that there husbands rank applies to them, in regular civilian matters, so they tend to stay in certain little clicks and not go very far out of them. I have found that officers wives are usually more friendly, (as well as any wife who has spend a considerable amount of time in the military) its usually the new bees who have attitude (if any) most of the time thought they are really just having a bad day.
2006-10-05 08:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Charisma 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Here's my experience. Generally they are not when it is on a neutral level. But when there is a meating for the whole Company, then the higher ranking Officer's wives have this "way" about them around the other Offer's wives and even the enlisted wives. However, you can't really blame them because I just learned that when men are deployed, the wives of the "rank" have responsibilities over other wives due to that rank. Like, my hubby is only a 2LT but he's the Company XO, not a PL, so if other wives need info for while thier husbands are deployed, they go through the chain of command. So it starts with the PL's wives, then if they can't get the info, the contact the Company XO's wives, then they contact the Companu Comander's wives, then the Batallion XO's wives. It's like a catch 22. The funny thing about my situation is a 2LT us usually a PL, and a 1LT or Capt. is the Company XO, so we're really put in a hard place, because we're new but expected to already know everything. Personally, I think the enlisted wifes are snottier because they expect to have thier hands held and have problems with everything if a situation doesn't go exactly they way they want and if someone doesn't cater to them. I just got my first whiff at this at and FRG meeting last night, and only the enlisted wives were griping about petty bull sh!t and placing blame on some one else instead of themselves. All the Officer's wives just kept their mouth's shut. If a soldier has to stay late because safty is important then they stay late. The enlisted get home at 5:30 when they're "supposed" to get home at 4:00. Well the same rule applies to all, and my hubby doesn't get home until 8 or 9:00. My hubby stays longer than the enlisted, and their wives are petty b!tching!! That's my personal experince and take on it. Like my hubby says, "If you don't like it you can throw it right back!"!!! I love it, he's such goof ball. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-05 07:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by afafae25 4 · 3⤊ 6⤋
No. I was a military brat and my brother is in the military. Typically, officer's wives can be stuck up, but not all.
2006-10-05 08:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by AleJunkie 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
some are, some aren't. i've noticed that most of the enlisted wives stick with enlisted and vice versa. kinda weird. i'm not sure why that is. i think we are all proud of what are husbands do and the rank they wear and sometimes it does get to your head.
2006-10-05 08:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, but there are some just like with any group. thats a pretty general remark, why do you ask?
2006-10-05 07:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by Stasia 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No. That is a big generalization. In what way do you mean?
2006-10-05 06:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Are all civilian wives stuck up?
2006-10-05 07:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by tweeder 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋