i'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 25, yes i know sounds bad but its not. he doesnt act 25 he acts maybe 21 in a good way, and we're still both kids at heart and we get along so well. hes not a bad influence on me at all and has always been there to protect me and help me deal with my family problems and my self-mutilation problems. my father has never approved of my boyfriends before but this one seems different, he really doesnt like him. i cant take the verbal abuse im getting from my father because of michael. and there is no way im going to break up with him because hes the one and hes saved my life. so please someone help me with this one
2006-10-05 06:28:42 · 10 answers · asked by grace_lindsey143 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know this guy inside and out and know what hes all about, my mother likes him but my dad is just shoving it in my face and everything. im not stupid, yes ive made mistakes but im not stupid. im afraid hes going to forbid me from seeing him and thats not happening. oh and also hes not able to be put in jail if my parents dont do anything about it and my mother wont, we've had that discussion
2006-10-05 06:40:30 · update #1
It sounds like your family has quite a few issues so you may not trust your parents' judgement to begin with (I don't mean that in a bad way -- i know my family is screwed up too) but in this case I think they have it right. You said yourself that your father seems different on this one and he's probably right --- dispite what issues you have with your dad at this point i think you should listen to him on this one.
But then again you're 17 and aren't going to listen to anyone anyway right? :-D
2006-10-05 06:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by uke9999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your parents probably are dissapproving right away because its an illegal relationship and he is a much older guy who has much more experience and they are afraid you are going to messyour life up some how. your parents are not always out to makeyour life miserable. Think about it like this, maybe they are trying to help you from making a mistake. you are still young and they have been through the stuff you are going through now. Think about that...
2006-10-05 06:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by rockerchick0727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that but why dont you ask your parents what there concerns are about your boyfriend. It maybe that there just worried he wants to marry you have kids settle down, and you know that that is the opposite of what he wants. It may also be that they dont actually know the boy that well, If I ever have problems where my parents dont like my boyfriend I set up an occasion where they get to meet his parents, like a familly dinner, They usually make friends with his parents and go mad when we split up incase "it just wont be right for" them "to go round and have coffee with them anymore!"
2006-10-05 06:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if your father truley loves and cares about you then he should approve. But then again true caring parents sometimes have a feeling when something is wrong. But if you really love this guy why don't you and him sit down with your father and discuss the problem.
2006-10-05 06:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the fact that your boyfriend is a pedophile and a felon?
I can't speak for your dad, but at least try to stay neutral until you're 18.
2006-10-05 06:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy and take your time. really get to know each other and see where it goes. you may find that you're friends at best. you're both too young for serious stuff. slow down and relax. your parents are forever, guys come and go. slow up and see what he's really made of. you have to highly value yourself and allow yourself the opportunity to grow, learn and experience. don't sell yourself short.
2006-10-05 06:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by jbgrinder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got experienced the two a sort of circumstances, so with a bit of luck i can shed some easy. My mothers and dads disapproved of notably much each boyfriend I had. They compelled me to interrupt up with a guy i in my opinion care approximately, who lived in basic terms an hour and a a million/2 away. They suggested he became too a procedures away and that he became mentally volatile. It regarded that no person became sturdy sufficient for me, a minimum of of their eyes. I met my now husband and knew right now that he became the only. My mom rather hated him, because of the fact he lived out of state too. I went to his state each weekend, which created a extensive outrage with my mom tremendously. My suggestion would be to take the marriage element slowly, stay jointly for a on a similar time as, to work out in case you're rather well suited. in the tip, I married my now husband, the only I knew i'd be with continuously. as quickly as we had a infant, my mom tried to interrupt us up, she did no longer experience he became ideal for me. besides the undeniable fact that, she in no way theory every person became ideal for me. She needed me all to herself. i think of what you're able to do is take a seat such as your mothers and dads and clarify the way you experience approximately your boyfriend. tell them how plenty their meddling hurts you. they could see your area.
2016-12-26 10:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents usually want the best for you .. if you see that this guys is good, then try to talk with them about it as long as it takes ..
2006-10-05 06:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is it wrong, its illegal, you are a minor, and he can go to jail
2006-10-05 06:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have sex and get pregnet and then u will have to keep him
2006-10-05 06:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by yankeessuck1500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋