Does grandma need a time-out too?

Question

Your mom offers to take the kids over night - Harray!
You spcifically tell her not to take your kids around her husbands dog, who has bitten people in the past, ( including yourself! 120 lbs Rought)
She does it anyway! She slips and accedentally tells you how the dog licked your sons face. I'm furious!
What would you do?

Answer 1

My sister had to do that. It wasn't over a dog but food. My niece has a serious weight problem and the doctor said that she is on the fast track to type 2 diabetes at only 11 years old. So, my sister has her on a very healthy diet that they all can live with - junk food are occasional rewards to avoid obsession. When she goes to my mother's house they are eating junk food the whole time (this sometimes involves several days as she will stay overnight for two or three nights in a row). Pizza and soda for lunch, waffles for breasfast, ice cream between every meal. She would give her fruit too but it always had something with it to liven it up - caramel dip for apples, whipped cream on the strawberries. It is terrible. So, my sister had to limit the visits and when that didn't work, banned them.
The silliest thing was that my mother would then call me on the phone and moan about how dissatisfied she is with her own body, complaining about how fat she is but cannot exercise (she's in a wheelchair).

Yes, Nana's need time out, too.
If the Rottie has a vicious past, I'm surprised he has been allowed to keep him.

Answer 2

Someone needs to tell your mom that these are YOUR children, not hers. If she wants to subject her kids to a dog with a history of biting, fine. But when she has her grandchildren she should respect their parents requests.

I have a much smaller very well natured dog and when my grandkids are over the dog gets put into her pen. I will not risk my grandkids health or their precious faces...and I won't choose my dog over them either.

I've owned many dogs...among them Rottweilers, and a responsible dog owner realizes that a dog can be unpredictable, no matter how friendly they are. But a dog that has bitten in the past? SHAME ON GRANDMA!!!

I wouldn't have my children at her home. She can come to your home to visit with them or watch them for you. You are the mom and the rule maker for your children and until she can understand that then all visits should be at your home. Good luck to you all.

Answer 3

Man , grandmas is like that! I told my mother at one time that she needed time out. I tell the kids no sweets she did it anyway.I tell them no outside to late, cold, or whatever,she sends them outside.
Talk to mama again. Please tell her that she is tearing you away from you kids in a way. Its like you will have good control over your kids and when she comes, all hell breaks loose. Now, my mother sees that is a problem and the kids were trying to play us against each other.
Now, with that dog thing, tell grandma thanks for the help, but I really don't like my kids around the dog. Find out if she insist on letting the kids play with the dog. If so keep you kids home unless you are there to watch them.When she sees what you mean she will following it through.
But yes, grandparents will overstep their boarders and laugh about it later, til they see the outcome it will cause.

Answer 4

me and my children actually haven't been to visit my mother in her home in about a year. She bought a dog last year and it is absolutely nuts. She doesn't like to keep her caged and she is too rowdy for the kids so we simply don't visit. It was a lonely summer. We are used to visiting her at least once a week. My mom is the one who decided it was too much for us to come down, and I agreed. Maybe she'll get rid of the dog soon. Oh well. She comes here to visit when she's not working.

Answer 5

Two things could happen if my mother did that. One, she wouldn't get to babysit anymore, I would rather pay someone else than allow my child to be around a dangerous animal. Or two, make her give up the dog. If the dog is more important than the grandkids, she doesn't need to be around them anyway. Oh, I would slap my mom if she ever did anything so stupid with my child.

Answer 6

There should absolutely be a time-out for grandma's.
My mother in law drives me NUTS
I can't do anything right, and she always has a better solution (even though her solutions are never connected to problems)

My daughter is 3, and grandma tells her that she doesn't have to listen to me. If I could completely cut contact, I would!

Good luck.

Answer 7

Tell her that she is never taking the kids for an overnight again since she can not respect your wishes and that she put your children in danger

Answer 8

sit down and talk to grandma. explain to her that she needs to watch the children better when they are over there. tell her that you are glad that she wants to spend time with the kids but some rules need to follow if she is going to continue to get them over night.she'll understand. good luck!

Answer 9

I don't understand why you would let your son go to a home that you knew a dangerous dog was going to be at. At any rate--ask your mother to baby-sit at your house from now on--that is if she wants to. Best of Luck!

Answer 10

Tell her that until the dog is gone the children will not be back over there. She is welcome to come to your house and see them. She took a very big chance with your child, and I would not stand for it.