I tend to be too aggressive with women, what are some tips to get better at talking to women?

Question

This is how I speak to women.

Your beautiful. What is your name? Well, Sandy, I would really like to get to know you. Maybe I can call you sometime? Whats your number?

My friends say I need to run better game than that, they say I need to be smoother to get ladies. They say the way I talk is too starightforward. How can I improve my asking women out skills?

So if I see a woman getting off of the train I am supposed to ask her about her life and interests while she is trying to get to work before I ask for her number?

I am not in a nightclub people. I am meeting these women at grocery stores and on the train.

Answer 1

be cool.

Answer 2

This is why women stay in packs when they go out.

Why on earth should a woman hand over her personal contact information to man after five seconds? First off, she knows NOTHING about you - you haven't shared your name, city of residence, what sort of person you are, why you're at this place tonight, your criminal record, how insane you are. You have yet to give her any reason to trust or like you.
Secondly, you have not shown that there is any meaningful connection between you. "beautiful" is a weak and unimaginative compliment and is only skin-deep. By asking her out right away, you've shown that your interest in her is purely physical and spur-of-the-moment, and offers no honor or homage to the wonderful person she is. It's practically an insult to assume that any intelligent or self-respecting woman would respond positively to this approach.

My advice: Stop thinking about it as a "game," a competition with your buddies to see who can get the most numbers or the most dates/sex. Think about each woman as a real person, someone you'd like to get to know (and not just physically). Start getting to know her right then, and offer information about yourself before expecting her to reveal personal information about herself. Pay attention to what she says and ask thoughtful follow-up questions. Hang out with her for at least 30-45 minutes before asking for her number or for a date. If you grab her number and then rush off to try and get another woman's number, it cheapens the connection you were claiming to be so desperate for.

Be respectful. Be kind. Make her laugh. Show her that she matters.

p.s. Why are you picking up women while they are commuting or running errands? They're busy. They didn't leave the house just to satisfy your cravings. Of course it's going to be difficult. But the same principle applies. Anything worth having is worth taking the time to get. Offer some conversation, then acknowledge apologetically that "I know this is very sudden and you've got other things on your mind at the moment, but I think you're amazing and I'd really love to see you again. Could I treat you to a cup of coffee sometime?"

Answer 3

Sounds like to me you are too aggressive with women try some small talk before you ask for personal info

Answer 4

Hey,
Not only is your game weak, its also cheap.
Try to lure the girl...get her interested in you and then make your move.
We believe that if you've got good stuff then you should be taken. If you're not taken then something's wrong somewhere.
Try to improve your game by peaking a woman's interest then, let her chase you.
It's worth it, every single time.

Answer 5

More conversation, man. You have to ask about their life and what they enjoy about themselves and connect on some emotional level. Your approach gives the impression of you only being interested in their appearance. They have to think that you see more in them than looks.

Answer 6

Stupid, ur point must not be to get their number but to make an impression. "Your Beautiful"...etc, etc, is the opening line for disaster, change ur tactic and u CUD end up with numbers.