I'm a 40 year old divorced man who is entering the dating scene again -- something I thought I'd never have to do. I'd like to get the opinion from women if they think that a man my age should continue to wear his wedding band on the right hand (supposedly to indicate that I'm divorced) or should just get rid of it.
I can see points either way for wearing it or not wearing it and would like to get the opinion of some of the women out there. Is this a turn-off? Or is it a positive thing?
2006-10-05 05:52:23 · 20 answers · asked by brad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can tuck the ring away in a special place where you can look at it if you need to do so. I still have mine, but it's tucked very far away....and mainly is there to be given to my son when he is old enough to do something with it. As a woman, I can say that seeing a ring on a man's finger means that a part of him is still taken. If that is the case, then wait awhile before you date. Give yourself time to heal and to be ready to date. When you feel that you are ready, then you can enjoy making yourself available for a new relationship. Don't worry so much about the dating scene. It hasn't changed much....not the basic needs of people in their 40's at any rate. You can have friends suggest someone who is also single again...or you can try some of the online dating arenas. I suggest local church and social clubs for divorced people. Most of all...enjoy life as a single man for a bit. Only get seriously involved when you are ready for it....and when that ring is nothing more to you than a piece of jewelry you once wore.
2006-10-05 06:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see points either way my self, but I would come more to continue wearing it in the event of her death on the left hand,as to wearing it on the right hand to indicate your divorce. You say that you are back in the dating scene again, I really don't think that I would be wearing it all if that is the case. I wear mine since my divorce and on my left hand. It is not because I have any feelings for him by any means.... cause I do not, I it do because I don't want any body "hitting" on me. But if I was a female looking for a man and he had his ring on, I would ask him what it was about. You will more than likely will let your female friends know about it anyway, so I think I would just stop wearing it. To some it may be a turn-off and to others they may not care one way or the other.
2006-10-05 06:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one divorced 40 year old male to another, please ditch the wedding ban. A divorce is bad enough and that is a symbol of your prior relationship. If you have an attachment to the ring, melt it down and have someone make you a new ring or something. Mine is in a jewelery box along with my class rings and cuff links and I have not decided what to do with it. I also have the ex's wedding rings as well.
The 1st couple of dates you go on are going to be very wierd. You developed a comfort level with your ex spouse and now you are back on the dating scene again. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-05 06:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you're going with this, if you wear it, it can ward off men you're not interested in but it can also give an indication to men that you may be interested in a feeling that you haven't let go of your ex-husband. I say get rid of it. The marriage is over and you want to start dating with a fresh, new start...an old weeding ring is not going to be helpful.
Good Luck
2006-10-05 05:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get rid of it. You will scare them away. Women won't get close to you because they would think you are taken already! Sometimes the first thing women do is to see if the man is wearing a wedding ring
2006-10-05 05:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its up to you but I'd advise you not to where it. You could start a lot of confusion and plus that band was to symbolize the love of you and your (ex) wife. So if your divorced, it only seems logical that you wouldnt wear it anymore, unles its really gorgous or something and you want to wear just for the sake of wearing a ring to look good or something. Thats kinda confusing lol sorry. =)
2006-10-05 06:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ought to keep wearing it....Not only will it remind you every time you look at it, of what used to be, but it will not be a turn on for the woman you are dating, she will also be reminded of your ex.....take it off, and start fresh, who knows after a couple years of dating, you might get a new one, only better!
Take care and good luck in the dating thing, can be tough but don't let it get the best of you! Have fun and have a nice day!
2006-10-05 05:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit wearing it when you are ready to. After my divorce, I wore my ring until I met my now Fiance. I just wasn't ready to give it up until then. I have a friend who has been divorced 3 years and still wears her ring on her right hand.
2006-10-05 05:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not wear it at all. Put in a box or drawer at home if you want to hold on to it. There is no reason to wear it now that you are divorced. Go out and have some fun and good luck in life! :)
2006-10-05 05:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mabry M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its true you may get more attention wearing it but when a girl finds out that your just wearing it may upset her and think your a sick man .... so your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't.
2006-10-05 05:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Monica T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋