How can I feel an orgasm???

Question

How can I feel an orgasm???
I lost my virginity to my boyfriend who I love six months ago. The fist time was very painful and didn't like it. Then I just continue doing it hoping it would get better. The pain went away, and so we have sex almost everyday, I am a little worried because I never been even close in feeling an orgasm. Is that normal????

Answer 1

It's normal...It's not you really-- your boyfriend has to improve his technique. He needs to slow down and give you a chance to enjoy the sex.

Answer 2

This is very normal. In fact only a small percentage of women can have an orgasm through intercorse. Most women have orgasm by stimulation of the clit. If you can't reach orgasm through intercorse, try other things, like oral and manual, if that works then there is no problem. It is not a problem with either of you. Don't let people tell you it's his fault because it is not. If you tell him that it will only upset him. Play around, have fun. If you experiment you will find something that works best for you.

Answer 3

well it really depends on your age; in the begining "Guys" will finish like in 30 seconds (his firs orgasm) but he will be able to go again like a minute later and the time span will increase. As a girl you have the power and the ability to ask him. Do you perform oral sex on him? Has he performed oral sex on you? if so how long; for a woman it takes aprox. 15-20 minutes to reach orgasm. Also you may want to try stimulating yourself to reach orgasm so that you know what works for you.

Answer 4

Okay, when I was younger, I had this problem too. But a friend gave me a tip that helped. Don't do this ALL the time (it can get addicting), but in order to know what you should expect - do this:

Take a vibrator.
Lay face down on the bed.
Place your vibrator on high speed and place it on your clit.
Move it back and forth and press hard.

You will have an orgasm eventually. Just relax.

Answer 5

Totally normal you have to stop thinking about it so hard. Relax and experiment when he is not there you need to know what makes you ***, before you can move in the right spot or have him move there in order to orgasm with him. It may take time he may have to spend more time with fore play before you get started but no fear it will happen just be patient

Answer 6

Oh, sweetie. He either doesn't know what to do or he doesn't care to do what he needs to do to give you an orgasm. Most boys don't understand about that and figure that you're enjoying intercourse as much as they are. Have you ever had one on your own? Perhaps you should find some literature about sex so that you two can experiment and figure out what your body needs.

Answer 7

This is funny but if ya got nothing to do check it out! BTW to answer ya question very few women actually have orgasms until the internet now they all claim to! Stop expecting it just relax and you'll have one! You sound very uptight! Before 1980 something an O wasn't something women really got! Get ya b/f to slow down and do more foreplay! BTW I ain't an expert!
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Answer 8

Obviously you both are young and inexperienced in this area. You need to experiment by yourself to find that sensitive area that will cause you extreme pleasure. Either direct clitoral stimulation or some women like stimulation just inside the opening. You will know when you find it.

Answer 9

Most females under age twenty don't have a orgasm during sexual intercourse until you are a little older .how old are you ? Is oral sex an option ?

Answer 10

alot of women dont have real orgasms during sex... mostly during oral or direct stimulation. just do alot of foreplay in the beginning, then have sex, and then you might be able to. though if you guys are young, i wouldnt be having sex at all if i were you, especially everyday.