I am so sick of this. Instead of playing with our son, he holes up in the bedroom and looks at porn and masturbates. Instead of mowing the lawn, he looks at porn. Instead of having family outings, he stays home and looks at porn. Every free moment he gets, he looks at porn. The man is 35 years old! He never wants to be intimate with me. I am 21 years old. I'm a nice person and I'm pretty and not overweight and I take good care of myself, the house and our son and the man in question. (my bf)
I found out it doesn't stop there either... for the past year he has been going to one particular strip club. I called the strip club & the lapdances are $10. He has been spending on average about $800-$1,500 a month at this stripclub.I found out because one time he charged $300 ON MY CREDIT CARD! And I wondered why we were always broke!
I don't want to leave because we have a son together.. but I am FED UP..
Any advice?
2006-10-05 05:34:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
come on don't stay because of your son, he's a prev and you need to leave his stupid masterbating ***.
2006-10-05 05:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by TONY L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what if you have a son? That's no reason to stay. You want your son to think it's normal to look at porn all day, whack off and go to strip clubs. You'd be doing your son a favor by getting him away from this guy. He's going down a nasty hole and he's taking both of you with him. Ask him to get counseling and if he refuses, seriously consider a separation for a while. It might take something drastic like that to get him to choose between porn and you. And if he chooses porn, well so be it...
2006-10-05 12:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me your man has an addiction to pornography. It really has nothing to do with you...your looks, libido, etc. He needs counselling. You must tell him that you're fed up, and that if he wants to remain in a relationship with you and your son, that he must get this help. You likely have a long hard road ahead. If you love him, stand beside him. If you are just staying for the sake of the child...get out now. Your little boy will be happier if you are happy. Children can sense when their parents have issues. Google porn addiction and recovery, find some resources for him to get help, and for yourself. I'm sure there are support groups for spouses of those with this type of addiction. Hang in there sweetie, and good luck!
2006-10-05 12:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Legs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might have an addiction. He needs therapy. You need to lay down the law. Tell him that he needs to seek professional help, or you are leaving and taking your son with you. Is this the role model you want for your son? I know it is very difficult, but sometimes you are better off trying to make it on your own (and/or with the help of family or friends) rather than stay with someone who is so toxic to you and your son's life. Best wishes.
2006-10-05 12:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time u try to see the reason behind his addiction. Seek profesional help. Its almost like smoking after a couple of puffs, u come to the day where u find it difficult to stop. Make him see. Good Luck.
2006-10-05 12:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him he is making a fool out of you find some one better some one that cares fore your child.
2006-10-05 12:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Majsen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him & let him live happly ever after w/ his porn!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-05 12:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by BooSha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋