My one year old keeps throwing tantrums.?

Question

My son will turn one next thursday. He has gotten to the point to where when he doesn't get his way he will throw tantrums. I'm talking about lying on the floor and kicking and screaming. If hes in a better moood he will just simply hit me instead of the floor. This is getting out of control and I try to tell him this is wrong but I still live with my parents and they make him think this behavior is acceptable. I'm only 18 and don't really have my feet on the ground good enough to move out but something has to give. I've asked them to listen to me and not allow this but they do anyway. Any suggestions on what I should do?

I give my son everything he needs the only finincial assistance my parents give is letting us live there. That is a big help but don't think they raise my child. If i just ignore him when he does this is that a form of neglect? If my parents give him what he wants and I don't then he will care for them more cause he can get his way

I give my son everything he needs the only finincial assistance my parents give is letting us live there. That is a big help but don't think they raise my child. If i just ignore him when he does this is that a form of neglect? If my parents give him what he wants and I don't then he will care for them more cause he can get his way

Answer 1

When my son was that age (I was also a young mom)...My mom taught me a "sanity saver", give the child a time out alone in their room...Alot of times kidz need to cry and scream cause they don't have a lot of control over thier emotions...Time out alone was best for my child..Try it..It's tough @ first but you also don't want a spoiled child.

Answer 2

One of the best suggestions I heard for this was to walk off and ignore it. I put that into practice with my son, who is a year and a half, and it helped a lot. There got to be some points where I had to pick him up and make him change what he was doing - or end the tantrum, and this worked as well. There was no sweet talking, I had to use 'the bad tone', and simply told him 'No More' - but that was when he refused to come and eat, or to walk where I needed him to be.
It took a few times..and yes he still does it - but at least it isn't constant.
I ended up having to use the 'be nice' concept to get him to stop hitting, but that only comes with showing him constantly to be nice, not to hit.
Try making a sad face when he hits. Remember, talking at this point is not going to do you a lot of good. He does not understand yet. Basic concepts for right now is what he needs to grasp. Once he understands this basic concept, then move on.
Don't depend on your parents or anyone else to teach him what you want him to learn - everyone's parenting skills are different.
Its a great thing that at your age you are doing this, don't give up, and don't stress over his bad behavior too much - he's normal lol. Wait until the screaming starts over something he wants and can't get. The key is to be persistent, stick to your guns. He will learn. You have no reason to give in just because he throws a fit, that will only get worse later in life, and you will have a very spoiled child on your hands.
Do things now to teach him while its still easy!

Good luck!

Answer 3

You can ignore him, it is NOT neglect. Just send him to his room, if you make an issue of it, he will see that he gets a rise out of you and keep doing it for attention. If you ignore him, he will see it does not bother you and quit! He is coming to the phase of the terrible 2's and BOYS get it much sooner than girls! I have 2 girls and 1 boy and I know from experience that this is TRUE!! My son is 2 1/2 and he acted like that when he was 1, my oldest daughter would not do these things! Just be patient, it only lasts til about 6 years old, LOL! Good Luck!

Answer 4

First, you have got to discipline the grand parents. Too bad if you got knocked up at 17 and can't afford to raise you boy without their financial help. Unless they want to be paying for your son when he's a grown a.ss man, they need to start teaching him NOW that not everything is for the having.

When your son flings himself on the floor, either walk away and let him have at it 'til he realises mommy don't play that or pick his little a.ss up and pysically remove him from the situation.

Tell your parents DO NOT allow my son to be rude. I will not tolerate this behaviour from him NOR will I tolerate you encouraging it. They WILL NOT kick you out and if they do, they don't give a sh.it about you or your kid.

Stand tall, stand up, and start formulating a plan. Maybe you get the hell out of there in 5 years AND DON'T HAVE NO MORE BABIES UNTIL YOU CAN AFFORD TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR SON YOURSELF!!!!!!!

Answer 5

kids throw tantrums for attention, if you can ignore it and then give him the attention when he stops and does something good you can teach them a new way to get what they want. Kids are smart enough to realize that they can get away with different things with different people so I wouldn't woory too much about your parents. You could try the same with them actually. Basically, all kids do it, some just more than others.

Answer 6

my son is 3 and he still throws those same tantrums except my son will throw him self on the floor. This isnt acceptable behavior. Grandparents let these things go. I had the same problem living with my inlaws, their son has disabilities toware he can not controll his behavior and his parents let him eat a whole chocolate cake for breakfast. It didnt change till we moved, and we lived there for 2 years. now my son has picked up the same behavior, act now or you will regret it....i know i am. good luck

Answer 7

When your child is having a tantrum, simply walk away and ignore him. He is doing it to get attention...do you sometimes give into him, while he is doing this...this could be why he continues. Be strong and just ignore him...even in public. As far as hitting goes, once he strikes you take his hand and firmly tell him...Do not hit mommy...and leave it at that. He doesn't understand what right and wrong is yet...and won't for some time...

Answer 8

When he does that, put him in his crib and shut the door. Tell your parents that you know what you're doing and ask them to just leave him alone. Tell them that this behavior isn't acceptable.

It's neglect if you give in to his every whim. Think about it. Have you ever watched nanny 911. Those kids are horrible because their parents never told them no. They never gave them rules. Make sure you start giving him lots of discipline. For example, feeding him at about the same times on a daily basis, going outside to play at the same time for the same amount of time on a daily basis, bedtime at the same time, etc.....

Answer 9

i am raising my grand son who just turned 1 year old. when he throws a tantrum i tell him okay your just gonna have to cry and walk away. after about 5 minutes if he has stopped then you'll know that it's one of them attention things.it is good for them to cry some times as it strenghtens their lungs.some times just putting in his bed,walking out and shutting the door where he will see that he can't get a attention by acting ugly.just until he hushes.try it.as for the grand parents. i wouldn't worry to much. just start saving to get on your own and you will like it a lot better. most grand parents spoil children any way but when he gets older they will regret it. good luck!

Answer 10

I did this once and once only, but it cured my kids of even thinking about a temper tantrum.

I simply laid down on the floor and threw a bigger, uglier, louder fit than either one of them could. It shocked them so bad that they only attempted the fits a couple more times. When they did, I acted like I was getting ready to throw another fit and they both stopped immediately.

Sounds silly, but it worked for me.