my boyfriend and i have been together for more than a year but its on and off. And this new year we started off good so we have been thinking about it but im not really sure.
2006-10-05 05:28:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure how old you are, but I take it that you are a teenage girl. I will tell you what I have told my teenage daughters. When you care about someone, love someone, your emotions and hormones are in full swing. It is very hard to control those good feelings, especially if you have already been "fooling around". What you need to remember is, when a teenage girl tells a guy she loves him, she is saying she wants to spend her life with him and always be with him. When a teenage guy tells his girlfriend that he loves her, what he really is saying is yea, I have feelings for you, but my real feelings are that I want to have sex with you. And of course, he will say, if you really love me, you will show me.
Honey, please don't fall for that. More often than not, once you give it away, he will leave you and find someone else. Try to hold back for as long as you can. Give it some time and try to wait until you are sure what you really want. If you can make it through high school or at least your senior year, you will be more mature, You must always remember the consequences - pregnancy, std's. What will happen should either of these occur. Take your time, enjoy your friends and good luck.
2006-10-05 05:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you ready to get Married!! I'm serious sex is hectic. Theres diseases out there!! And heartbreak.Its really hectic if you feel in your heart you don't feel your commited enough or the other party isn't commited enough to Marry you then you aren't ready to get sexual!!! The minute you get sexual, you become incredibly close and tied to that person and it makes breaking up all the more painful! And if you don't intend on Marrying the guy that means that you's are going to break somewhere along the line, So think carefully this is your body and your life you talking about.Sex is Major.Don't be fooled by media!!!
2006-10-05 12:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u r not sure, just don't do it! u should do it with the one u love and not the one who is "on and off" with u! u should w8 till u find "the one"! sex is a very special thing and it doesn't matter that u r together more than an year - u've gotta love and trust the one u lose ur virginity with!
hah, this may sound awful but it's the truth!
don't do it or u'll b sorry!
best wishes
ali shkodrova
2006-10-05 12:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your age .i am way over 18 years old and i have a fiance. we didn't dop anything till he was ready. but if you are way younger then 18 then don't bother with it till you are older cause it wont be the best feelign ever and it doesn't always bring couples closer. it did with me because i am engaged to be married to the same man that i have been with for 2 years and almost 2 months.don't rush into it theree is more to a relationship then sex.just wait for a little longer if you wait for at least a year more then it will be more special and and meaningful. or wait till engaged to be married. he wont want to marry you based on how good sex is . if he does then he is a loser.
2006-10-05 12:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not sure your not ready. When you are ready you will know. Don't just give it up because he wants it. Remember once you've done it you can't take it back virgin or not. If he is worth your time he will wait if he doesn't want to wait let him go.
2006-10-05 12:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've been on and off, there's a good chance that you'll be off again sometime. And there's a good chance that you'll be off for good sometime.
Wait until you know that it's going to last. In other words, wait until you are married. It will be so much more special that way!
2006-10-05 12:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Go16 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your not 100% positive then you're not ready. Trust me, you'll know when it's the right time and you're really ready.
2006-10-05 12:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are ever ready the first time.
2006-10-05 12:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are married is truly the best time. I promise, you will be so thankful that you saved something so special, for the person you married.
you can only give the 1st time to one person
good luck
2006-10-05 12:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by xrionx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will be ready when you no longer need to ask.
2006-10-05 12:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋