He has problem with mental health he isnt taking care of, the system sucks, has anyone been through this at all, his girlfriend is very nasty, swears and screams all the time, he is turning into her, we worry about the grandson we haven't seen for months who is over 5 months, i not only lost a son, but a granson and it truly hurts...
2006-10-05 05:25:45 · 9 answers · asked by loreescachter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you can try to help your son, even though he's legally an adult now... but unfortunately the grandchild is the parents' responsiblity, no matter how much you don't like it
2006-10-05 05:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have something that is called a mental health warrant. If he is on meds & not taking them , they will pick him up and take him in for a psych eval. Where I live you obtain that through the supreme court. What u need 2 do is petition family court in regards 2 ur grand. Let them know ur concerns about your son and the mothers behavior. If the paternal grands are the only one making this complaint, & if it is founded they will place ur grand in ur household. He would have 2 seek mental health treatment, and she needs some anger management class, if so stipulated. I would also say parenting classes if she is behaving like this around the boy. If this happens also ask 4 ur kinship monies, you are entitled to that. If the baby was taken & placed in foster care they would have paid another family. I know ur not doing this 4 the money, but out of concern 4 the childs welfare. You should be paid 4 ur time & effort-- if it comes 2 that , for they sound incompetent. When and if they get their act 2gether ask for your grandparent rights. You are entitled 2 that as well.
Good Luck!
2006-10-05 13:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is 18, still very young (especially to be a father) - and if he has 'written you off', that may change. He may be bitter because of either imagined or real hurts he suffered at your hands when he was smaller. (With most of us parents, there is room for both). Be there for him when his world comes crashing around him, take him in again if he is willing (perhaps it will be a few years from now), get treatment for him if you can, and start over. Sometimes family therapy is good. In the meantime there is not much you can do, unless it is obvious to you that the baby is in real danger - then you can report the matter as has been suggested.
2006-10-05 13:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said to seek custody. It seems mean, but it's really the best thing.
I learned in psychology that the first three years of our lives have such a profound impact on us. Right now, even at 5 months old, your grandson is being damaged.
Your son and his girlfriend need help, and until they get it, they are not fit to be looking after their baby.
2006-10-05 12:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by ryanjamesm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get your son to go over and try and talk to him alone without his girlfriend around. Try to explain to him that his behavior and his girlfriends behavior is not the way they should be acting with the baby there.
If this doesn't help I would try and seek custody as soon as possible so the baby can get some help and have a peaceful environement or he will grow up to be like them because thats all he will know how to be! Don't let that happen hon.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 12:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nezza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried contacting Human Services, it sounds to me like that child is in an environment that is probably not the best for it. DHS can check up on them and make sure the child is getting what it needs to grow and prosper. Your sons untreated mental health condition MAY also be grounds for removal of the child from the household.
2006-10-05 12:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by maes_quest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek custody of the child until these people get their problmes delt with, whatever they are, good luck to you
2006-10-05 12:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u've already lost a son, your grandson however still has time for your help.
2006-10-05 12:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Henry P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and get your granparents rights
2006-10-05 12:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋