2006-10-05 05:24:39 · 9 answers · asked by Quitta A 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
The first thought that passed in my brain was that if somebody is looking to us to tell them what to do, then they need to give the child to a good family to raise. They are grossly incompetent to care for a child.
2006-10-05 05:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's their own choice what they want to do because it's their conscience they will have to deal with for the rest of their life. Only they can make that decision. The "blood connection" lasts a lifetime so either way she chooses the child will eventually (and more than likely) be in her life again. Both she and the child will experience emotional problems if she gives up the child. Usually children are given up because the mother has run out of money and there is no father to pay for the child. So could your friend find that male partner and make him pay for the child thru court mandate?
2006-10-05 05:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can she properly take care of the child? Is she stable enough emotionally to deal with taking care of and being responsable for another human life? There are many questions that she must answer before she can decide. It is a terrible choice to have to decide to put your child up for adoption. It is also a terrible loss to the natural mother. It is not a choice easily made. If she feels that she cannot take care of the child properly, then she should give it up. There are many great families out there that will raise the child as their own, and give it everything it needs financially and emotionally. BUT she needs to be sure that giving the child up is what she needs to do. No one can make that decision for her. She must make it herself.
2006-10-05 05:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by susan w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean she just had the child and still can't decide whether to keep the baby, or place for adoption? If that is the case, it should be at her discretion. Placing a child for adoption is a mother's sacrifice and should be thouroughly thought thru. If she knows she absolutely cannot provide, take care of, and protect the child, then perhaps she should. If she can't bare the thought of losing her child, please know, I am adopted and found my birth mother, and she still is recovering from it. It is a seperation that you will never get over.
2006-10-05 05:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want it, then she should give it up. If she does want it then they should keep it. If you are saying they are going to be a bad mother or too young, then maybe consider an open adoption, where they give it up for adoption but get to visit him/her once in a while. I would love to have a baby boy, but cancer stopped me with two beautiful girls, I have been cancer free for 9 years, but I always wish I could have adopted one, but the cost is so high!!! So whenever I find out that one of my family or friends are pregnant, I always ask if I could have it, they say yes, but then they change their minds. Like I said, I would adopt, but the cost is extreme (19-50 thousand).
2006-10-05 05:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by cdb774 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on her situation, how she feels about the child and weither or not she can care for the baby. By the way, a child is a human not an 'it'.
2006-10-05 05:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...the hell?! what's the situation? is this child 4 days or 4 years old? Is mommy a drinker? Is mommy in grade 7? I know people with kids, too. Shoudl they give them up?
2006-10-05 05:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more details, why do you question it in the first place? Is she unfit, does she not want the baby? Details please
2006-10-05 05:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by yes, it's me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- its her kid and she should love it and keep it
2006-10-05 05:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by cayla_152 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋