I'm talking to my ex boyfriend... yesterday i had to show my lamb in Dallas State Fair and well i called him to tell him how i done will i was about to leave and i had to let him go and well when getting off the phone i almost said "I love you" he is the first guy i had ever said that to and i still really care about him. well i called him back and we were talking and he got really quiet and i asked what he was doing and he said thinking then i asked what he was think about saying i love you to me and i hadn't even told him that i almost said it... well the reason why he is my ex is because he cheated on me... i really want to have a relationship with him but i'm scared that i'm goin to get hurt if i go back with him... What should i do should i go back with him after i forgave him and he has amitted to making to mistake and says a lot of things that make me feel special like no one has ever made me feel? or should i just forget about him and think of what could have been?
2006-10-05 05:23:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone has a different opinion about relationships and how cheating on the person you are involved with affects trust in each other.
I used to be so black/white and an extremist when it came down to matters of the heart. I used to beleive the worst thing anyone can do is cheat on the person they love. However, with experience and age, I discovered that matters of relationships cannot be simply black nor white.
Basically if you feel you can trust him, and if you still love him (and he, you), maybe you could give it another shot. But maybe you should also make certain that if he were to cheat on you AGAIN, this time it would be the deffinite last time without any possibility to get back together ("Do not pass GO, do not collect $200" ! ).
On the other hand, there is no proof he will not cheat on you again, so maybe you should try to move on, which is not easy (I know!). But in this case, will you be able to trust him if you allow him to return in your life? Will you be suspicious of everything he does when you aren't around?
Relationships are based on trust (amongst other things, of course), and cheating breaks that trust on an intimate level, which is something alot of people can never get passed.
So it all comes down to you and what do the concepts of cheating and trust mean to you and your relationship.
Cheers, hope this helps!
2006-10-05 05:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just experienced was "Reflexive Romance" as I like to call it. When you miss someone, you'll tend to forget all the bad things, and crave that good feeling you two had together at one time. It's like an involuntary reaction, that's why I call it reflexive. It's something that you'll get over only if you stop talking to him for a while and get some water under the bridge.
I had an ex that broke my heart really bad, but every time we were around each other after the break-up, we ended up sleeping together. It hurt, but I had to call an end to it and stop seeing him for a long long time. We ran into each other after a few years had passed and the tension was still there, so my best advice again is to move on.
2006-10-05 12:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Move on. Don't ever get back with an ex. He's your ex for a reason. Forgive, but don't forget.
2006-10-05 12:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I'd give him another try. Just one more.
Everybody makes mistakes, and people sometimes get weak and do things without realizing the consequences.
But....if he still loves you and you still love him, why be miserable?
Try again, slowly, and see how things go.
You'll never know until you try, and if you don't you will always wonder about it.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-05 12:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. you obviously love him. you need to ask yourself the question "is it worth the possible hurt?" it usually is. everyone deserves a second chance, but do it cleanly, forgive fully or it will never work. good luck! remember you can never say i love you too much or at the wrong time if its true.
you can never get rid of all the pain in life; though, pain doesn't hurt when you can say you have truly loved.
2006-10-05 12:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by barbsmonsta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Most men use flowery talks to make a woman believe that he's still interested..just to use them. Set him free & yourself free, focus on yourself, love yourself! Then start entertaining. Be wise, "It should be Head over Heart". Believe that there's really one out there who's meant for you. Don't Rush! only fools do.
2006-10-05 12:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Love Freely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you don't go back! He don't deserve you and you sure as heck don't need to put up with some guy you can't trust.
2006-10-05 12:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i believe everyone deserves at least a second chance so i would try to work it out but if he ever cheats on you again i'd get rid of him.
2006-10-05 12:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back, that's like giving him permission to cheat again.
2006-10-05 12:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call.
Either you take a chance at being hurt and betrayed again, or you tell him enough is enough.
2006-10-05 12:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋