should i say it on face in the same rude tone even if it turn out fight...or keep it to me...
many times i've come across this, & i feel that my humble tone of talking makes some oversmart people behave like that to me & i'm taken for granted under the impression that this girl is naive or may be more suitably underconfident..
i'm an introvert & sensitive person & my mind can't come out of it once anyone behaves bad with me (whithout my fault or reason)
the most annoying part is that sometimes we've no option but to keep in touch with them....
2006-10-05 05:16:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Kill them with kindness because they wont know how to act. If you are rude back then all that does is give them the power to let them know you are upset. If you act like it does not bother you, not only are you not giving them power you are showing that such behavior is beneath you.
2006-10-05 05:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by confusedpatricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel (even though I'm a guy)... You probably want revenge or something, but all it takes is for you to realise how immature they are behaving. (but don't say it to their face =P)
If you aknowledged their rudeness or replied in like manner, then it is the same as sinking to their level (but we've all done that before :)
I was also "too humble" and completely introverted... now I stand up formyself, don't take c*** from anyone (sometimes that just means taking part in the "social banter"), but mostly I'm confident about myself.
So, you should really let all your confidence shine. People try to 'bully' or 'stand on' those who appear weaker then they are... but nobody would do that to a person who is confident... well... not unless they really were VERY childish.... then you have to consider how much contact you keep with this person.
2006-10-05 05:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dudeface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think everone can relate to your question. I would suggest confronting these people that you feel treat you in this fashion. Tell them how they are making you feel. I have family that make me feel this way. Sometime you have to use reverse psychology on them. If they tell you you look fat, tell them how great they look. It doesn't help to lower your head and just stew about the mean things people say. Some people are just chronically rude, I say avoid them like the plague. If your friends are rude, find new ones that make you feel good about yourself. If it's your family that makes you feel this way, it's time you make them well aware of it, especially if it's interfering with your happiness.
2006-10-05 05:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by cal gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I wish I knew the answer to that. I am the same way. I have been rude back to them. Though it does shut them up pretty quick cause they don't expect it, it doesn't feel right either. I had a "friend" that use to do me this way. I avoid her completely now, but sometimes its people you can't avoid. I wish I could come up with witty remarks to put them back in their place but I usually don't think of it in time. Sometimes I want to just smack them.
2006-10-05 05:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hit them very hard.
2006-10-05 05:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Occy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋