We met and hit it off, but we are both kinda just out of a relationship. She told me that she didnt want to be smothered so what should I do to keep this going. I have been told that not calling and letting her call me would work but that sounds very weird to me. How should I act towards her to keep the wheels moving, I could definitely see myself dating this girl. Please help!
2006-10-05 05:15:03 · 20 answers · asked by Lee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST, TAKE A DEEP BREATH. WOMEN LOVE WHEN YOU RESPECT THEM. DO WHAT SHE ASK OF YOU AND YOU WILL SEE HER COMING MORE CLOSE TO YOU. SHE JUST HAVE TO BEGIN TO TRUST AGAIN.
2006-10-05 05:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by roll tide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've hit it off, then why not just call her to ask her out - maybe to a movie or something. Then a few days later you can call to make sure it's still on, maybe confirm the time. Don't push her, since she doesn't want to be "smothered". For now, let her set the pace. Maybe ask her to call you if she feels like going out for dinner or something ... tell her you'll call next week ... I think calling more than once a week just to talk would be a bad idea right now. Once a week sounds fine, but not as if it's a scheduled time ... try to vary it a bit. Another way you can get to know her better might be through IM ... like Yahoo chat. That's less intrusive, and a more relaxed way to get to know each other. Give it a try!
2006-10-05 05:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to show someone that you are interestd in them, just be careful not to go overboard. You wanted to know how often you should call her? At least 2 days after you get her number--you don't want to appear to be desperate, even though you both are on the rebound. At this stage in the game, you two are still fragile, sensitive, gullible; so my advice would be to take it slow--don't be shy around her, don't expect too much, but always come correct. If you want her as bad as you say you do, and she is worth all this, bring your A game, but keep your distance. Respect each other's personal space. Get to know her more, treat her like a queen...this is going to work out famously! Good luck to you...
2006-10-05 05:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by baby_dice106 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tried being to nice all your life. So tell me, how has it worked out for you? Not that well? Well, I'm not surprised.
Why don't you listen to me and the other dude and start dating other lovely ladies and stop calling her. Use your time wisely.
If she's interested, she WILL call. But when she calls and wants to meet up, meet up with her, and spend time with her and make sure YOU end the date and go somewhere, saying you've got things to do, ppl to see. Then she'll come back for more. You stay glued to her, she'll use a scraper to get you off her.
Otherwise do what you do best and lose her too.
Your choice. So make it wisely my friend.
A friend
Raf
2006-10-05 05:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't smother her! it's the worst! give her a text now and then before you call her. Mayby ask her if u can call her, just say you want to chat. If you ring her and she doesn't answer, DON'T TRY AGAIN! Rule is, never leave more then 2 missed calls when dating. Hope this helps
2006-10-05 05:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lil L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't call her or see her more than twice a week. Stick to that rule more than the I called her last it is her turn rule. She has to think that your life is completely independent of what she does. She needs to know you are interested but it is absolutely no big deal if she doesn't want you.
It is a real mental challenge. You have to push away something you really want in order to get it.
2006-10-05 05:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her, don't wait for her to call u b/c she's probably expecting you to call. I would call once a day or like 4 times a week. If you can, you could text her in the morning and say "good morning" and text her at night to say "goodnight" and not call her that day, but call her the next day. Well, goodluck.
2006-10-05 05:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Yes you should call her every other day for two weeks, then keep two day, she will miss you, send her flowers to her house, with a card telling her how important she is to you then just wait for her call, i bet she will fall, find out her favor flowers so you send her those, good luck break a leg. May God bless you always
p/d in your phone calls just tell her Hello i just call to know how you are doing, make it short and in the end just tell her when ever you need me i be here, you just call i be there. break a leg
2006-10-05 05:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Isabel Gaviota 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text her to say "hi". If she wants to talk to you she will call you back.
Call her maybe 2-3 times a week just to see whats up and if she maybe wants to go out.
2006-10-05 05:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by ZsMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine called me every day until we were officially together. It shows that he is interested. I made sure I was home every night when he called and i looked FORWARD to him calling everyday. We talked for at LEAST an hour a day. Now we are married and i am having his baby girl on November 14!!! yay...it worked.....CALL HER EVERYDAY!
2006-10-05 05:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since she doesnt want to be smothered just call her twice a day and if she doesnt pick up she will see ur number on the caller id so if she wants to talk shell call you back...
2006-10-05 05:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋