is there a hope of good family from a man who used to beat the wife?

Question

will he change when he gets older since he was young.Is it an excuse for being violent and short temper? Will he change when he is mature enough so the wife can accept him again

Answer 1

no he will not change

Answer 2

Unless the man has gone to counseling to help him deal with being abusive, then I'd say "Probably not." There's no excuse for being violent and short tempered when you can do something about it. If you haven't taken action to help yourself with a violent temper, then you're not mature-- maturity isn't always about age but about how people chose to take responsibility.

If you're wondering if you should marry or get involved with a man who has a history of violence, I'd say "No, don't."

Answer 3

no no and no.

Whats wrong with you? Too many women have found out that the sad truth is that even though he may seem loving before the marriage, afterwards, when he feels he 'owns' you, he is back to his disgusting ways. Wife beaters exist at the age of 70 and older so it has nothing to do with maturity and age. All that wife does who accepts him back again gets is yet another trip to the ER with him sitting in the ambulance telling her to tell them she tripped on the stairs or he will really kill her when they get back, and to remember that he only hit her because dinner wasn't cooked right and it was all her fault.
Stay away, stay away, stay far, far away.

Answer 4

Absolutely! part of the person being rehabilitated is giving them a chance.Abusers are sick.If he admits that he is wrong and goes for intense counseling and wants to change then I'd say go for it!! But if he is still in denial he will definitely abuse the family again there's no two ways about!!! If he denies that he is sick. Just move on with your life and never look back

Answer 5

listen, people do change. and society has a habit of labeling 'wrong' for the rest of their lives. it takes a good man to admit he has a problem and seek help for it. my father is the best example. when he was married to my mother he had a temper problem and would see nothing wrong with hitting her and she hiiting him. they would fight all the time. they divorced. my father remarried twice more with no improvement. then he met lisa, his third wife and she suggested counseling, which he finally submitted to. they have been married for 12 years and have never had those problems. it's sad that my parents got divorced and for some time he did not change. but finally he got help and survived. the victims are not only the survivivors you know. the abusers have to overcome their demons to change and in a way they servive too. i am so proud of my dad and thank god everyday for lisa.

Answer 6

nope !
people can change but these cases usualy are getting the same thing going until they go to conseling and police stations and mabye prisoion !
they habits,they way of living and thinking is repeating it self and when he realise he says sorry but once again he do it again. people should get curre so he have to go to the conselor, and group conseling, so that he understants his problem...
so try to find out that this time its the real thing..and dont b ashame to use any metods to ashure that he have changed !

Answer 7

This is dangerous and without him having seen a good "mental" Doctor for a long time I would seriously doubt it. Be very careful and watch out for the signs and leave quickly if he shows the slightest symptoms.

Answer 8

I doubt that he will change, I don't know of any abusers that actually truely changed, even after he got older. There is no excuse for it. I wouldn't take the chance. Why would he deserve another chance anyways? He made his choice.

Answer 9

There are many different theories as to the cause of domestic violence. As with many phenomena regarding human experience no one approach appears to cover all cases.
Identified and proposed causes include a need for power and control, as a form of bullying and social learning of abuse. Abusers' efforts to dominate their partners have been attributed to low self-esteem or feelings of inadequacy, unresolved childhood conflicts, the stress of poverty, hostility and resentment toward women (misogyny), personality disorders, genetic tendencies and sociocultural influences, among other possible causative factors. Most authorities seem to agree that abusive personalities result from combination of several factors, to varying degrees.
Identified causes of abuse include the benefits and privileges perpetrators gain for themselves by establishing control over their partners. In "Why Does He/She Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men," author and domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft lists some of these rewards:
The intrinsic satisfaction of power and control
Getting his\ way, especially when it matters to him the most
Someone to take his\ problems out on (e.g. to blame for his problems)
Free labor from her; leisure and freedom for him
Being the center of attention, with priority given to his needs
Financial control (he can use the family's assets as he pleases)
Ensuring that his career, education, or other goals are prioritized
Public status of partner and/or father without the sacrifices
The approval of his friends and relatives (who often tacitly condone abuse)
Double standards (he exempts himself from standards applied to his victim)
As you can see from above violence has nothing to do with the maturity and if he can get help in the form of "anger management" treatment improve his self esteem than marriage eventually can be restore. It will take a long time to build trust.

Answer 10

Youth is NEVER an excuse. If my six-year-old cousin can control his anger, so can a married adult. No one has a right to hit someone out of anger, especially someone who has taken a vow to love them forever!

Answer 11

History saids NO!@