When you love someone do you complain all the time about things they do and make them change or do you accept every little thing about them no matter what. Im trying to figure out if I really loved my ex bf or not cuz there was a lot of things about him that turned me off and i always complained to him about things he did like swearing, shouting when he got angry and throwing his clothes anywhere. He always explained to me that that's who he is and its not going to change cuz he was always like that. But I cant accept that which is one of the reasons we always argued. Do I really love him?
2006-10-05 05:09:03 · 13 answers · asked by Miss Thang 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Me and my boyfriend have this same exact problem. I want him to change, to go to college, to make something of himself, to be honest with me, then he just says I demand too much and he's not going to do something just because I tell him to. So yes, the reason we ask these things of our boyfriends is BECAUSE we love them so much. It just hurts when they really don't seem to love us back. Don't worry too much about it. Good riddance to bad rubbish I guess.
2006-10-05 05:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't climb in your head, so I can't say if you loved him. I can say that you nagged him, and nobody likes to be on the receiving end of nagging. However, I can understand nagging about dropping his clothes on the floor, but swearing and shouting were something you should have known about when you got together with him.
Some guys are easier to change than others but this guy sounds like he wasn't right for you. You'll both live longer without each other. Be grateful you weren't married and move on to someone else.
2006-10-05 05:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by pvreditor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"love is a wish that hides in your heart and no one knows about it but you, love is a dream, an eternity in a single moment. it is better to love too much than not enough".- there has to be compromises in any relationship. people in love don't always like each other, think about it some of the worst fights were with someone you "loved". people can change but they have to want to
2006-10-05 05:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by sid8084 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all these things bothered you that much that you tried to change him then i dont think so. But the heart works in wierd ways and if a big part of love is seeing someones flaws but seeing them as beauty. If thats how it is with you, then yes, you are in love.
2006-10-05 05:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dani Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is about compromise, he should not and never will behave exactly how you want him too, and neither will you change and behave exactly like he wanted you too. No one should have to change everything about themself for love, however they should be willing to make changes if they truly love someone. So in other words your both wrong and are better off split up.
2006-10-05 05:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, when you love someone you love everything about them. Yes everyone has flaws, but always remember they will not change their habits for you, I've been through it myself, and the relationship went down the drain!
Good Luck!
2006-10-05 05:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about love, but it sure sounds like you didn't like him a lot. And liking someone is so important to a good relationship. It sounds like a good thing that you are no longer with him. Good luck in your next relationship, and make sure it's with someone you like, not only love!
2006-10-05 05:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can love some one and still see things differently but weather or not to live with them and except their differences is a whole other story.
2006-10-05 05:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask no. Generally if when you think about him, you remember more bad things than good, i would say its not love. and even if it is, leave him alone.
2006-10-05 05:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he should have been willing to compromise with you. We all expect our partners to change something about themselves. Doesn't hurt to ask them about it, and change for you if you changed something for them.
2006-10-05 05:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋