me and my boyfriend just had a kid together but i have a daughter from another relationship. my ex and i get along pretty well (that wasn't always the case) and my b/f gets so jealous i try to explain to him that the reason we can get along is because we're over eachother. why can't he understand that? my ex is in texas and i'm in ny so he knows i'm not sleeping w/ him or anything what's the big deal. what's he so jealous about?
2006-10-05 05:05:00 · 13 answers · asked by mackley222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love and love.
2006-10-05 05:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I don't excuse it, but I understand. He's your new boyfriend, and as you are his girlffriend, he's marked his territory. Doesn't matter if your ex is your ex, there will be some jealousy there. BUT I would watch out for it, sometimes jealousy becomes fear and that can lead to rage which creates some very bad situations. Just let him know where your loyalties lie and that even if you DID leave him, there's nothing he could do to stop you, he can't control everything y'know.
2006-10-05 05:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be a very mature individual to deal with a situation like that. I lucked up in that department because when I met my husband 16 years ago my oldest daughter was 9 months old. Her father and I agreed when we broke up that we would not be like most of the people that we knew who were fighting with their exs and their new mates. We agreed that we would do whatever was best to raise our daughter together although we were no longer together. When I met my husband I explained to him that my daughter's relationship with her dad was more important to me than my personal relationship and that if he had a problem with that then there was no need for us to go on. He totally understood and he and my daughter's father developed a decent relationship. When my husband and I had our first child together my daughter's father started calling himself her uncle-daddy and took her out to lunch and for sleepover with our daughter and my husband never had a problem with. My daughter's father met his wife when our daughter was 2 years old and she got the same speech that I had given my husband. She too understood and today we are kind of like an extended family, their son comes to my house to play with my youngest son and sleepover and there is no jealousy between any of us and our children know that they are loved but not only their natural parents but by their stepparents as well. Besides I love it because my girls have two great men looking after them.
2006-10-05 05:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are very possesive and feel especially an ex might still be able to control what he is having a hard time doing. If he is comfortable with you and trust you then he wouldn't have a problem with it. Maybe he has some growing up to do
2006-10-05 05:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you share a child show you shared intimacy that he now shares with you
therefore the ex's presence in any form is always a reminder of that
continue to show him how much you are over him and how much you care for the one present in your life
time will heal
best wishes!
2006-10-05 05:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell your man to grow up- your with him not witth the other man. He obviously has trust issues and that will lead to serious problems. Sit down and tell him that he has to stop that. You have a child with the other man, that other man will always be in your life. Tell him to grow up or goodbye
2006-10-05 05:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just insecure. Did you and your ex breakup shortly after you had a child together? Maybe he is worried that might happen again.
2006-10-05 05:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is jealous that you still have a emotional connection with "the man you should have married" in his eyes and that cuts him deep your ex half way across the country is competing with him for your emotional affection.
2006-10-05 05:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger, hate and jealousy
are a waste of time
and mostly "injure" the practitioner
of such ....
2006-10-05 05:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Moonlite gambler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't only want to own your present, he wants to own your past.
Please stop having kids without commitments from their daddies, its not fair to them.
2006-10-05 05:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its just those feelings he has for you and he doesn't want you talkin to your ex b/f i guess
2006-10-05 05:11:02 · answer #11 · answered by yukmouth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋