i mean i dont know i like him but every one tells me that he is way too old but i love him he is different and plus he is still a vegin like me:) but i dont know what do u guys think????
2006-10-05 05:04:38 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's a good idea to date someone who is five years older...I like someone who is four years older than me, but I am 24. I know older guys may sound more appealing, because they're more "mature," but trust me, they're not, sometimes it takes guys a LONG time to mature, even the older ones. I would try to find someone who is closer to your own age, because you'll have a lot more in common with him, and it will probably last longer too.
2006-10-05 05:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. You know why i say that, because you don't have enough experice to deal with a 20 year old mentally. You are the perfect age to be molded and by that a mean he can make you think, feel and act how ever he wants you to.What the hell do you have in common? Think real hard about that question besides sex,touching,and kissing ,"love"<---- and i am being a smart *** by saying that because most people don't learn what love is until they are 25 and thats a few most people learn when they are in there 30's...Look i know what you are gonna do because i was there and i can only tell you what i will tell my lil one when she is your age...you are gonna do it any way unless you listen and no one does that if they did the world would be much diffrent.Don't think you are a diamond in the ruff to this man because after he is done ******* up you live he will find someone else! e-mail me back if you still need to talk
2006-10-05 05:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference does matter at times.......think about the situation are you ready for that type of commitment? does he treat you like his equal or does he often times refer to you as a kid? are you mature enough to handle this relationship?
He is 20 going on 21. He will be able to go into bars without you, are you comfortable with that? do you think eventual he will get bored with the fact you can't go with him? I mean there are alot of things to consider.
You say he's a virgin, but eventually he will be looking for intimacy, are you ready?
You can't only think about yourself either, think how the situation can effect him. It's illegal for one, is he ready to go to jail over you?
How does your parents feel about it? I wouldn't suggest getting too involved, I mean step outside the box........A 20 year old and a 14 year old.........how does that sound to you???????????? You're just going into High school, is he thinking about college, if so where does that leave you?
All in all you are not emotionally ready for a real relationship, he is a man and you are just a teen. Realistically you are lusting. A relationship is more than love.
Get your diploma first and then figure it out.
2006-10-05 05:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy should be arrested> It is illegal for anyone that is an adult to be dating someone that is not of the age of consent which is 16 years old. So my dear do not concentrate on having a relationship now, concentrate on your schoolwork and your education, you can have a relationship anytime after you get your education but if you ruin your future by having a relationship now especially with someone way older than you then the risks are very high for you to not succeed in life and get in all sorts of trouble. So please let this person know that you are too young for love and that you have a future ahead of you and that you don't want to mess that up by starting too early. O.K. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-05 05:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ashanofy Frederick Dixon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First any 20 year old who tells you he is a virgin is fibbing to get you to trust him. I was 12 and dated a 19 year old. You are only 14 and truley do not know true love. I know you are thinking what does she know, but it is true. I have been there and done that. Plus that is illegal, he could go to prison. If he is willing to risk all of that then he has a mental problem. You ned to get away from him fast. Don't worry about boys, go play sports or join a club. Just stay away from this pedophile
2006-10-05 05:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Its not OK. You are fifteen. Try being fifteen instead of forcing yourself to grow up before time. He's 20, he knows he can't have a real relationship with you. So what do you think he wants. Com'on you're a smart girl. At least you asked , that tells me you aren't too sure of it yourself. Hang out with girls and guys your own age. They may be a little immature but honey dig deep, you know you are too. Enjoy your young years getting crazy with your friends. Tell that perv' to bounce. And trust me, he's not a virgin. He's saying that to get into your pants. And trust me when it comes to sex you want to save that for that special guy who knows you are something special and lets the world know it too. Then even if it doesn't last forever you won't regret a minute of it.
2006-10-05 05:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is TOO OLD for you, second of all he probably isn't a virgin, he's just telling you that. Does he care about not going to jail if one of your parents find out? Especially you say you don't know him, that's making a big mistake. Guys that age can tell a young girl anything they think they want to hear and the girl thinks that he is a great guy.Noe you say you love him, how can you love him if you say you don't know him, you have plenty of growing up to do...............Of course he is going to be different towards you until he gets you where he wants, in bed and then he is going to dump you. You have to love some one to go to bed with them, not like them. You better think real hard on this one girlfriend, suppose you get pregnant? do you think he is going to hang around? NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep your mind and butt in school, you have plenty of time for this later. If I found out my daughter was with a 20 yr. old guy and she is only 15 the s--- would definitely hit the fan. You have a whole life in front of you enjoy it....................................
2006-10-05 05:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all its not your fault. most young kids would be excited if an older person is showing interest in them. the problem however is with this 20 year old "man". perhaps he just doesnt have enough game to keep someone his own age interested in him. if a 14 year old girl is the best he can do, then he has a serious problem. you should stay away from him. when I was 20, i had nothing at all in common with 14 year old girls. what the heck do you guys talk about? cartoons? freshman orientation? come on.
2006-10-05 05:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl, let me tell you from experience. stay away from older guys!!! when i was 12 i got mixed up with an older guy(he was 17) and we were together on and off until i was 15. at the time i thought i really loved him, i really did. but now, (i'm 23) i would definately take it all back if i could. no matter how nice or charming or cute he is, there is no reason that any 20 year old should be with a 14 year old. all that comes with this will be heartache in many different forms. save yourself and stay far away from this guy!! please!!
2006-10-05 05:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by deeconner23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing you said you don't know if you like him but you love him. That is one reason why you should not date him. I'm not sure how mature you are but most 14 or 15 year olds do not know what love is, including my self at that age. Another is if your not sure how you feel about him that 's another. You can't love him and not be sure if you like him, that makes no sense. I do not see myself letting my daughter date a 20 year old at 15. But good luck on your decision I hope it's a good one.
2006-10-05 05:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by missie695 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋