2006-10-05 04:57:44 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hmm... i guess it depends on what sex means to YOU. for me, it is something extremely special and amazing and exciting, and i wanna share it w/ One person that i can trust w/ all my heart, mind and spirit! :D.......and i won't know if i can 100% trust that person til i'm married!! so right now me and my bf are both virgins (yes, don't laugh! :P), waiting til marriage before we get thaaaaat intimate all the way! some people who don't see sex as anything special will not have much expectations or trust issues w/ partners.....so either u are not interested in sex Period, or u don't see sex as something special..?? i dunno :) but that's what it is to me! i want to be attracted to my bf emotionally, mentally, so that when we consummate it physically it will be really exciting and fun and intense~~!
2006-10-05 05:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, one of the reasons the institution of marriage was conceived by our forefathers was to confer society's sanction to sex and ensure that a man or woman had sex with one partner only, viz. the legally married wife or husband, instead of having it with multiple partners. So it aimed at preventing philandering and sex abuse. Another reason was to keep the family line moving forward through procreation by sex through marriage.
Having sex after marriage is not a question of necessity or compulsion. It is something the vast majority of people naturally do after marriage. In fact a lot of people who have had no pre-marital sexual experience, look forward to this very sublime experience by consummating their marriage through sex. It is considered a very normal post-marital activity between married couples. And as already mentioned, it creates the next generation of the family.
However, on account of impotence, infirmity or ill health, either or both spouses would fail to have sex naturally. Or they could abstain if they believed in the primacy of platonic relationship. Or they could abstain due to some belief, religious or otherwise. While that can not be considered unnatural, it is surely a bit uncommon.
2006-10-05 05:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex after marriage is healthy. Some women and men need sex to take their minds off of work and their daily routine.
If you don't want to make love with your significant other after marriage then file for a divorce fast. Marriage is not all about sex.
I don't know the situation with you or your partner but its your decision.
2006-10-05 05:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a man and woman having sex after the marriage is not necessary if both are not interesting in sex ,otherwise no way of escaping from sex
2006-10-05 05:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but a marriage is not considered a marriage until it is consumated, by almost every culture.
Common Sense is also right, that the witholding of sex in a marriage can be used as grounds for divorce.
2006-10-05 06:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, without having more details, legally your marriage is not consummated unless you have intimate knowledge of one another, which means in lay terms you're married only on paper.
Secondly, without more details as to why......it isn't necessary ofcourse, but it is a boggle to me as to why you would not. I don't know if you are military, shipping out and have to leave immediately, if you are physically separated for an indefinite amount of time or perhaps paralyzed? Whatever your circumstance, hopefully you and your spouse discussed this BEFORE you got married, and you are both in agreement.
Blessings for you and your marriage....
2006-10-05 05:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pattycake2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about during the honeymoon, or as a general rule of thumb???
I don't think sex is necessary, but brings two people closer together in a new relationship.
2006-10-05 07:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend once told me, "Once you say I do, she will say she won't" ..
Marriage and sex life are stereotyped as being synonomous with frigid females and over sexed males.
Being married requires intimacy for it to survive, an important part of intimacy is physical and sexual contact. If intimacy is not existence or if parts of the intimate contact is lacking the marriage faces some serious uphill battles.
My wife and I have teenage children so physical / sexual contact is sporadic, but we do make time for it.
2006-10-05 05:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No sex means a marriage was never consumated and can be grounds for an annulment if one chooses. I guess it depends on why your marrying someone. I personally could not understand marrying someone you woul not want to have sex with unless it was for financial, or legal reason formality.
2006-10-05 08:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a eunuch? (just kidding) or saints- in-the-making?
There is one reason couples do NOT have sex at all after they are married: (heard this from a friend). Either they are physically or emotionally uncapable like disabled, retarded, or mentally ill.
( I am not making fun, but it does exist out there that people like this marry.)
I heard this from a doctor and it's true.
There are couples that have been married years that never, I repeat NEVER had sex, and the reasons I mentioned are above.
2006-10-05 05:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋