I can't trust him because he tells me that he don't have feelings for his ex - fiancee when he went down to that state where his ex - fiancee live's and has lunch with her and then tells me that he only went down to see if there were feelings still there between the two of them.
2006-10-05 04:54:39 · 20 answers · asked by bobsgirl198363 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That should be a very good sign to bail while you can. Run and don't look back
2006-10-05 04:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the number one thing in a relationship. If you don't have that you have nothing. As far as his ex, I wouldn't think there would be any reason why he would have to SEE if he still had feelings for her if you and him are involved. He should have figured that out before you two got involved. Honestly I would feel the same you do as far as not trusting him. You deserve better then that and I am sure you could find better. No one needs to go through an ordeal of " let me see if I still care for her, I'll be back", that's bull... and you don't need to take that from anyone. Personally I wouldn't marry him, he isn't as in to you as he should be if you are planning on getting married. I would dump him and move on. Your right for not trusting him... he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Good Luck and I hope I helped.
2006-10-05 12:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you shouldn't marry someone you don't trust. That doesn't necessarily mean that it's all his problem and not yours :) You may be having trust issues and irrational fears, and it's best to work those out as much as possible before tying the knot. Keep communicating with him about it. DON'T accuse him, just come from your heart. Tell him that it hurt you deeply that he went to visit her to see if they had a thing between them. Tell him that makes it hard for you to trust him and to feel loved by him. If he was questioning his feelings for his ex...he doesn't sound ready to be married to me. Good luck!
2006-10-05 12:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the stupidest sh*t I've ever heard. He went all the way down there to see if he still had feelings for her even though he was still dating you? And if he still had feelings for her, then what would that prove? What would he do then? Hell no you shouldn't trust him, and you definately shouldn't marry him. You should think about kicking the crap out of him for being such a p*ssy before you leave his @ss. What a jerk. Girl please! I agree with Redneck Girl. You deserve better.
2006-10-05 12:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him, why would you marry him? Why put yourself in that position? If you know right now that you do not trust him, just tell him and end it. You will save yourself and him a lot of heartache down the road.
2006-10-05 11:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation for a good relationship if you can't trust him how would you feel if he works late or doesn't answer his phone or anything. is all that worrying really necessary in your life. when you marry it should be filled with happiness not worry. keep looking you'll find that special someone.
2006-10-05 12:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by rochelle9588 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him if you don't trust him. If you want to stay and work on this, then you need to tell him what he needs to do to re-build trust and give him the chance to do it. If you two agree that he give up all contact with his ex, then he has to stick to that. But, it sounds like he's got unfinished business with her-did they break up abruptly?
2006-10-05 12:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there u go
and what did he say "does he have feelings for her:"
my female friend is in love with her ex
but has met this new guy which she really likes
she is going up to see her x to see if she still in love with him
sometimes people need to see for themselves before they drag another innocent person into a path that is not right
2006-10-05 11:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, are you serious ????? DO NOT marry this guy. What in the hell does he mean he went to see if there is any feelings left ? So if there was he would have just dumped you and went back to her. You need to drop this selfish loser. Your second best to him. He would have preferred her and I say she can have him.
2006-10-05 11:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
honey this guy sounds immature and confused. i wouldnt rush into a marriadge right now, especially when things are like this. wait a bit more, see if you can trust him, and if you really can, then marry him. if you cant trust him now and get married, you will regret it for the rest of your life
2006-10-05 11:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then don't marry him. Marriage is a lifetime decision and not a child's play. Leave now when you still can. He probably isn't the one for you.
2006-10-05 12:06:28 · answer #11 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋