My bf and i have been together for nine months. and lately we haven't had much sex. like right now we haven't had sex in 2 weeks. i brought it up to him and he told me that he doesn't want to get worn out. we don't even make out or anything. i have gained a liltle bit of weight since we've been together but so has he. i just don't understand can anybody help??
2006-10-05 04:50:58 · 16 answers · asked by Lost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be seeing somebody on the side .....
2006-10-05 04:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's the lamest excuse ever..get worn out for what? Is he a porn star? The first thing we do as women is blame ourselves. He might be stressed out and therefore have no sex drive. I'm afraid the honeymoon phase is over. It has nothing to do with you. People long for affection and love. If he's not giving you that, all you have is a friendship not a relationship. You're not married. Decide how important sex is to you and either stay or move on. It just sounds weird. Somethings not right. Go to a sex store and buy a big dildo, that might wake him up.
2006-10-05 11:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Aidge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he able to satisfy you sexually before? He may be worried about whether he's satisfying you. He might be getting discouraged and he's avoiding sex because he doesn't want to disappoint you again. Give him some selfish sex that's all about him. Wear something sexy, throw him down and take over. Tell him you want him to ***. Do it for the sole purpose of pleasing him. That way he won't be worried so much about pleasing you. Maybe then he'll be interested in sex if he doesn't have to stress so much over it.
2006-10-05 11:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mitch B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you guys do it too often maybe prior to this? He needs to want you again... and the best way to initiate this is by pulling away a little, too. Don't be too desperate.... make yourself interesting again..... take care of yourself- work out ... alone or even together with him. Just do something together other than sex- it's time to divert your attention towards each other as people- not sex machines...... don't be too genital oriented.
2006-10-05 11:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just have a low sex drive...but i think maybe hes losing interest ..try doing something different when your having sex.....ask him what are his fantasies and act one out for him....perhaps you two have not taken the time to find out what each othor likes in bed..i really dont think its the weight thing though...it would have come out by now if that were the case...try spicing it up a bit and if this doesnt work he may very well be seeing someone else.....
2006-10-05 11:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by funkyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in that situation...but come to find out that they were doing something on the side. Not to say that ur bf is doing anything, but question it
2006-10-05 11:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by trecypooh03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be stress at work of he might just be tired from work, dont make it out to be a job for him because hell start to take it like another responsibility or chore and will only bring more stress, but also be careful because he could also be getting it from someone else.
2006-10-05 11:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's busy elsewhere??? How many men get "worn out" from sexing too much? I don't know any...watch your back girl, he may have something up his sleeve.
2006-10-05 11:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting fat, that is a turnoff. If you don't give oral sex then that is a red flag. Lose the pounds and start blowing like you have never blown before and he will come around or on you.
2006-10-05 11:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Trips 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's screwing around or he's watching too much porn. Men loose the desire for real women if they are addicted to porn.
2006-10-05 11:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋