He's white. I'm black. We like each other A LOT but.... living in the south isn't easy. No one's going to take this lightly. I want to get him to see that maybe we are good for each other but he's so iono..... passive. what should i do?
2006-10-05 04:37:11 · 17 answers · asked by hunnybee032001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your age is apparently the biggest issue here, not race. He has no problem dating you, that seems apparent. But it doesn't look like he is mature enough to handle the consequenses, I'm not sure that you are either... just that he's showing it. You guys apparently like each other a lot, my guess is that both of you are 15 or younger; why not wait a little to actually become a couple. Spend the next couple of years being friends, come junior/senior year you'll be ready to handle other people's reactions.
It's too bad the South is SO FAR behind on this issue. There were a few interracial relationships back when I was in H.S. (more than 10 years ago), and nobody cared then.
2006-10-05 04:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole point of dating (for females, anyway) is to find that one person that we can spend the rest of our lives with.
Love has no color, so...there should not be an issue with this.
However, since there is, just take ur relationship one day at a time. Don't plan for ur future, cuz it'll get too difficult, mentally and emotionally. Just let ur relationship unfold the way it's meant to be.
I know how u feel, though. I'm white and my boyfriend is black. I love him to death, and he loves me, but sometimes it's hard when we go into public together because we get a lot of odd looks. Black girls always have something to say, and white men do too. Then, it's kinda hard for me cuz I know that the first thing people think is, "Oh, she's a ditzy white girl desperate for love, she's suckin' his d*ck, and he's using her." But that's not the case...
U can only withstand this by following your heart. If it's meant to be, it'll happen...
2006-10-05 04:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably reluctant because some people just don't accept inter-racial relationships, and some of these people can be insulting or even violent. I don't know what to say, it is a pity that people love to meddle in other people's affairs, even if it doesn't affect their lives in any way. But hey, there will always be these kinds of people, the question is: can your feelings for each other overcome it? I am married with a Korean girl, and when I go to Korea people always stare and talk smack...we just brush it off and stay in the "who gives a sh** what you think" mode. I say, start with the dating, think about it more seriously when you are ready to take the next step. Personally, as long as what other people say doesn't bother you, go for it. It's your life, it's your love, you do what makes you happy. Don't ruin a good chance just because some people are just bitter with their own lives and take it out on others.
2006-10-05 04:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm interior an same sitsuation. My father and mom r like no to african american. yet we were 2gether for pretty a lot 11monthes. besides the actual shown reality that it sucks stepping into the back of my father and mom wantings , i did it because i like him, and if u 2 sense that spark then i imagine u could bypass for it and communicate with ur father and mom about it. no matter if u have already got attempt again reason at the same time as u extremely like someone thats all that could want to count, the colour or the length could count. Its difficult because there r gonna be human beings wh o say that its incorrect and settle on in spite of the indisputable fact that it really is going to only make u 2 stronger,and in case you 2 get 2gether and if human beings do say stuff and u 2 do sense excluded dont enable it get to you. have self belief me. good success:)
2016-11-26 04:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by zito 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in the south he likes you and all but it won't be permenant because his peers will never let him get past it if takes you seriously like marriage or long term relation ship I wouldn't build my house on a sandy foundation If i were you if he really cares he'll have to ignore southern society entirely can he do it
2006-10-05 05:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say just keep hanging out with him and treating him good, eventually he'll come around. I've been dating a guy for the past 6 years that started out saying he could never love me because I'm 12 years older and I'm half white / half mexican (he's 100% mexican). Now he tells me all the time how much he loves me, and I can tell he means it. Just be patient!
2006-10-05 04:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skin color does not matter if you like him and he likes you. GO FOR IT!!! Dont hold back your feelings because of some racist folk in the south you need to hit them where it hurts and prove to them that your relationship can work and that skin color shouldnt hold anyone back from anything. God created all people equal so GO FOR IT!!!
2006-10-05 04:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by hotteenick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to give it a chance. im from the south 2(alabama baby) and people do it all the time if you like each other alot then it dnt matter what people think. (its like that movie "Save the last dance)
2006-10-05 04:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If race is an issue to him, then that lets you know where his heart is. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't mind all the crap that comes with being an interracial couple. People can be ignorant, but that doesn't mean he has to be.
2006-10-05 04:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you two should be able to make the decision if you want to be together, and to hell with anybody who doesn't think that is ok.
**** em who are they to tell you two that you can't or shouldn't be together. Ask him to take a chance on you two, and then let him make his decision.
If he can't handle it, then he isn't the one for you my dear. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-05 04:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋