My mother is very protective and she wont let me go out without her. She dont even want me to have a boyfriend but I do anyway. She has always been this way but it was understandable when I was younger but now that I am 18 is seems to be more of her not trusting me than her protecting me. We havent really been getting alone lately and our way of fixing things are not working. What do you suggest I do to fix our relationship and get her to losen her reignes?
2006-10-05 04:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what helped me and my mom when we were in the phase, was me moving out. It wasnt till she saw i was supporting myself, going to work, and being responsible that she realized i was an adult. she didnt call me often, and when my family would see me out in the clubs, she was glad that they reported i was always the designated driver for my girlfriends.
Talk to her. tell her that you understand that shes worried, but that your an adult and she needs to let you be one. Of course if you live under her roof, you still need to abide by her rules. so if you have to be home by 10, be there, show her your responsible, and you respect her.
2006-10-05 04:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom's serve a purpose for all of us! To protect. Sometimes after protecting for so long, it's hard to see that the protection is now smothering. You are old enough to go out on your own now. You should probably have at least a part time job.
So sit mom down, make her some nice hot tea and tell her you love her, but that she is smothering you. Do it slowly and lovingly. Habits are hard to break, and letting go of children is the hardest.
Now your part is to provide the trust she needs to feel comfortable letting you go on your own. It won't happen overnight. Take it slowly, an hour or two at a time, until she see's you're going to handle life just fine.
One last thing...once you're grown and move out on your own, always call your mom once a week. Don't forget that , it's more important than you can know. Hugs
2006-10-05 04:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try to spend more time with her and have more talks with her and just do things as the two of you by yourself. it's so amazing to have a strong relationship with your mother and they are definitely one of the most people in this world who care about you and love you! And yeah remember Oumak thoma Oumak, thoma Oumak (sorry if you don't speak Arabic lol not sure who to translate that) Remember that your mom loves you, and though she may not show it, she just wants the best for you. Try to help her out in the house and just strengthen your relationship with her as much as you can. Maybe buy her something or just go up to her and give her a hug or tell her you love her or something. Hope I helped sweetheart! :)
2016-03-18 05:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should sit down and have an heart to heart discussion about each others' expectations. You two should work hard to find common ground. I think counseling would be excellent here.
2006-10-05 04:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by icyhott4urmind 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get pregnant that will show her
2006-10-05 04:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill her
2006-10-05 08:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋