I have dated the same man for 4 yrs. Should he have included me in his cell phone purchase?

Question

He calls me every nite from his cell phone, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day because he works out of town. 2 yrs ago, he upgraded his cell phone service and bought 5 phones in the upgrade. He gave 1 phone to his daughter who is 25 yrs old, and 1 to her husband who is 30 yrs old, 1 to his 28 yr old son and 1 to his 15 yr old son and 1 to homself. He pays the cell phone service for all of these people. My cell phone service was up, so I went out and got my own contract for 1 phone. I am so mad, I have decided if he wants to be such a jerk about it, he can pay to call me and I switched companies. Now he wants my old cell phone and battery. No way! He was so inconsiderate, he can pay me for them. Do you think I am being petty? Opinoins please, maybe if you tell me I am being irrational, I will stop and give him my verizon cell phone and the $45 dollar battery I purchased for it 3 months ago.

I am 42 yrs old and have gone above and beyond for him before. I literally saved his life about 3 years ago. I am an RN and I taught him how to inject his insulin, how to eat and take care of himself. I swear, he would not be alive today if I did not literally save his life. I found him in a diabetic coma just 6 months ago which is a complication from the 1st near death episode 3 yrs ago.

Answer 1

You yourself said it, that he is paying for the service of all these people.
One way, it is a very sweet gesture...and they are family.
On the other hand, it was very unfair towards you...
I am guessing you are not in your twenties or thirties? Either way, i think he is aware that you are capable of handling this for yourself...
This, in my opinion, is not something to be so offended by...i am sure if he had one less child, or an extra phone then you would have been next in line.
It is just a phone,and service that regardless of this situation, you would have to pay for...if anything this should show you that he is very caring towards his family...and that's a good quality :)

Answer 2

yeah it does sound like he overlooked you. I would be upset. But it doesnt sound like that big of a deal. but as an example my 55 year old step father bought my mom a new cell phone and put her on his plan 2 months after they started dating and they were still officially in the category of "friends" not even thinking about marriage, although that cell phone purchase made us all wonder.

Answer 3

You're old enough to have your own phone service. He gave it to his kids who need it, and well since you already had one, I'm sure he assumed you still wanted it. Get over it. However, don't give him your 45$ Battery, that is yours, sell it on ebay or something and buy yourself and cute purse or some cute shoes :)

Answer 4

Maybe he thought since you had one that you didnt need a new one. He should have talked to you about it though so you didnt feel left out and since your contract was running up. He shouldnt have to pay for the other adults phones thought,,,,thats too much.

Answer 5

According to Freud a cellphone is a fallic sign of male power and aptitude. In Eastern cultures a cellphone also symbolises, furtility, high sperm count and harmony of the earth elements. On the Easter Island cellphones that wash ashore are worshiped and women place them in their beds on their honeymoon night. Clearly your man loves his cellphone more than you. Which may also indicate that he is gay.

Answer 6

You sounds like you are about 2 yrs. old. STOP ACTING LIKE A SOILED BRAT. Grow up and act like the women you are suppose to be. That is if you are really a Adult.

Answer 7

sorry but you are acting like a 15 year old he wanted to stay connected to his family probably because he was spending more time with you. this is a stupid argument to have and very unnecessary one also.

Answer 8

Why do you think he should? Are you two living together? Do you have joint banking accounts? If this is the only thing that is wrong with your relationship I would say GET OVER IT. geesh!