Is it Necessary to mary the grl/boy whome we love?
2006-10-05 04:26:17 · 37 answers · asked by Royalsoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No. But marry one, who loves u very much. U will be the happiest person of the world then, believe me
2006-10-05 04:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, anyone who plans a long-term loving relationship but eschews marriage as "just a piece of paper" is a fool.
Marriage confers many rights - most of which people don't think about because they don't want to face the fact that untimely death of one partner or the other is a possibility.
I read the account of a woman who had a child with her live-in boyfriend. They were happy, but had decided that "marriage wasn't for them." He went to work in the World Trade Center one day and never came home.
This woman was NOT entitled to any survivor's benefits. She now has to justify every charge she makes out of ther child's trust fund that was set up as the boyfriend's estate. She's also not entitled to any of her boyfriend's old properties, because the law did not recognize their relationship, and he did not have a proper will.
Marriage is protection for the one you supposedly love. If you have children, and you or your partner die without a will, only the children have claim to the estate. If you have no children, then only the dead person's direct relatives have claim.
Marriage gives you some say over your loved one's medical care in the event they can no longer speak for themselves. It confers a default "power of attorney" status to the spouse, which can be very important.
Marriage can also have tax advantages, although I'd check with an accountant if that's the only reason I'm getting married. It allows for the joint ownership of property as well.
Spiritual aspects aside, legal marriage is the most practical agreement you can enter into with your loved one.
2006-10-05 04:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary, but it is a good idea. It's not like you need to rush into marriage or anything, but if you're completely committed to a person, you would both be better of getting married.
This way, if something happens to one person, the other would be able to have his/her say in what happens. For instance, if the husband is in a car accident and needs to have risky surgery, the wife can sign papers, give permission for certain procedures, etc. If the couple is not married, she will not be allowed to make this decision. Instead, the decision will be up to other family members (like his parents).
In addition, say the wife dies. If she's married, the husband will get her life insurance money, bank accounts, real estate, etc. Otherwise, if they are longterm boyfriend/girlfriend and she dies, he will get nothing. Her parents would be the beneficiaries.
So my response is no, it's not necessary to marry the person you love. But if you care enough about them to want them to be taken care of in the future, you will marry that person.
2006-10-05 04:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! Marriage is super tough.The world paints marriage to be all fairytale like but its not!!! Trust me on this. Marriage is for the rest your life. The person you marry is your partner for the rest of your life. You might as well let it be your love and your best friend!! Trust me its the Love that holds it together. Marriage is about compromise and giving of yourself marriage is not something that you can be selfish in. That's why you have to make sure its someone you Love so that its no problem to compromise. Also make sure the other person Loves You or else there is just no point to any of it!!
2006-10-05 04:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society likes to make you think it's necessary, but a marriage license is nothing more than a piece of paper.
There are plenty of people who are married and miserable.
A marriage certificate doesn't really prove anything. You can be committed to one another without a piece of paper to prove to everyone else the love you have.
In my opinion, love & commitment is all you need to sustain a relationship - not rings, or papers, or approval from society.
2006-10-05 04:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, gosh it sure help to love the one you marry. If you want a happy marriage and all that.
If you are with the one you love and they won't marry you then it depends on how YOU feel about that. How important is marriage to you. If it is something you'll always want but they don't it could make for a very unhappy and unfilling life. If you don't care about marriage but what society thinks, you need to stop caring about everyone else. Your personal happiness is more important.
2006-10-05 04:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Love is the most important feeling when you want to get married. If you love someone, you are willing to help them, to understand them, to listen to them, to advice them, to scold them if you need to. Only love can really make marriage solid. With love, you have communication, with communication you have understanding, and wih understanding you have love. It's all a circle! With love, every day seems like a special day. Love makes everything shine! If there is love, you will support each other, you will want to make each other happy, you will take care of each other, you won't give up when you have problems, you will want success for each other.. you will want the best for each other. Life is just better if you love!
2006-10-05 06:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Divine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have the tendency to think that marriage is the papers signed. Marriage is the sense of responsibility, commitment, team work and loyalty with the other person. That is why so many marriages does not behave like such and other couples that have not signed the papers have a deep sense of commitment with his/her partner and behave and look like marriage.
So, in my opinion it is not necessary to marry the one you love, just behave like a husband/wife with him/her and you will be happy (of course, if your partner is as committed as you are).
2006-10-05 04:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy the way it is why change? But if you both plan to build a life and home together it is wise to marry. for security and legalities. Unfortunate to say but living in the time we do it is most appreciate especially if we have children for the future of your children . Tomorrow is never promised to no one.
2006-10-05 04:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.
sometimes u may love someone and choose to overlook some glaring faults and get urself hurt in the end.
so its usually wise to take the dark shades of love off and really scrutinize and be sure if thats who u want to spend the rest of ur life with.
Someone once said a "broken engagement is better than a broken marriage"
so try and be sure ok...
cheers!!!!
2006-10-05 04:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rare Gem 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋