Me and my bf were broken up for 6 months and I decided to work things out. He left the last time because we were having too many fights (assumed I wasnt happy with him because I use to cry when we fight/when he hurts my feelings).
I made the move to try and get back together and give it one more chance. We still argue but not as much as before (also we dont live together anymore like we used to). But over a figt last weekend he told me that he had to give up his pride to be with me. Would you be upset? Would this make you call it quits? To me he is my pride, my love, I'd do anything for him (and I do!!!) I go out of my way for him and I am hurt coz when he said that he seemed so selfish, what about me?!?!
2006-10-05 04:16:13 · 13 answers · asked by xxginaleexx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its called a breakup because it's broken... you should both have left it that way.
2006-10-05 04:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love someone you will want them to be happy and sometimes saying good-bye is the only way to really find that. Please don't think I am being mean. It's just that I spent 14 years trying to love someone the way it sounds like you are trying to, and no matter how hard I tried it was still the same thing. I wasted a lot of years working on things when I should have just let him move on and be happy. I know I am now more happy as well. If he feels he has to give up his pride then maybe what he is really saying is something is messing and the two of you can not provide it for one another. He can be the best guy in the world, but that doesn't mean he is the best guy in the world for you.
2006-10-05 11:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear you don't sound happy at all with this fellow.I know you say you love him but true love isn't beating yourself up trying to please him especially going out of your way to do it. By him saying "he had to give up his pride to go out with you" was down right nasty. He's basically saying you don't live up to his standards and I'm not saying that to hurt you.
Personally I would let him go. You don't need all these tears and unhappiness.Look in the mirror and say, "he doesn't deserve me" The right man will come along and love you for you and not someone that wants you to live his way only.
Start looking to a future of happiness. Life is to short to be fighting all the time.....All the best
2006-10-05 11:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an other boy friend dear !
There men enough on this earth to chose from .
Don't ever think that fights will end .
If you fight a lot , that means , he's not the right person for you and you are not the right person for him .
Don't waist your energy on him .
Use your energy for a man who makes you feel good in every way .
I know you care about this man , but , since he makes you feel so unhappy , is he really worth the misery !!!
2006-10-05 11:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes confusing his pride with compromise. If a relationship is gonna work, then both need to make compromises, sacrifices. Give a little to get a little. But he has to be willing to do so.
What he said was selfish and self centered.
2006-10-05 11:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends upon why you guys are fighting if it is your fault as well you should understand that maybe he isnt wrong all the time and that he wasnt being selfish he was just defending himself and telling you that he is to proud to be ohh im sorry its my fault when it isnt.And just let fate run its course maybe babe if you too are fighting this much you dont need to be together.
maybe you should just be friends for a while until you get all of your reasons for fighting worked out
2006-10-05 11:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to keep his pride and go find someone else. Come on do you realy want to be with a guy who sees you as being beneath him?
2006-10-05 11:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to take a step back and evaluate the arguments you are having with him. Are they all his fault, or partly yours as well? Once you find out the root of all your arguments you'll know if your realationship is salvagable or not.
2006-10-05 11:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id tell him pride comes before the fall and kick his *** to the curb.
2006-10-05 11:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with such a jerk? By the way, pride is a sin, therefore you have helped him. Get rid of him.
2006-10-05 11:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋