My friends' four year old got spanked at daycare yesterday; and she asked them about it this morning! He did get spanked by one of the workers! Is this against the law? I mean, he was biting! What would you do?
2006-10-05 04:09:32 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The bite her child inflicted left a barely visible mark; and when he was spanked, he was accidentally scratched! He also had a bruise on his wrist area. My friend saw the other child of whom her son bit! It was not bad!
2006-10-05 04:20:41 · update #1
Personally, I would think about pressing charges. Then I would propose to drop the charges. Only after the daycare fired the person that was responsible for spanking AND; had the staff do some type of parenting/discilpling class for all of the rest staff. Only if I was generally happy with the service that the daycare has provided to her and her son. If not press charges and pull the child out and put him/her somewhere else.
2006-10-05 04:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biting or not, he should have never been abused for it. It emotionally bruises children to be spanked by someone other than a parent. This is not legal anymore and she may be able to press charges. I would line up a new daycare and call the police on this issue. Laws in every State are different, but I know you can't do it here in Michigan. Hitting a child is very borderline for parents, let alone a daycare establishment.
I really hope it works out for her, if the police wont do anything, call the better business bureau. That's horrible, if one of my kids were spanked I would be crushed, I don't even spank my own children.
2006-10-05 04:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is No way your friend should let this go a child does not get spanked at a daycare , biting or not 2 wrongs between children does not make for a Adult to behave with no com men Cece .As for the law I am sure their must be something in her contract between the daycare and her self I know I made sure my daycare way liable if one of there employees when off and was slap happy with the children She should not let that go , you don't know what might happen next if that person is not put in line I don't me en fired , but something should be said and or done about that .
2006-10-05 04:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by wendy y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's an odd situation. I think kids biting is wrong. And the mom works, so she can't punish as is necessary because she's not there.
I think if she would have spanked her son if he had done the same thing, than she needs to think about others spanking since she's not around during the day to discipline.
But if she doesn't believe in spanking, she needs to tell the daycare what her preferred punsihment for such an action is.
2006-10-05 04:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by happymommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my mom runs a daycare and HAS NEVER EVER spanked any of the kids and some of those kids are complete monsters.
infact, when we were kids, i was spanked maybe twice in my life. She comes home with bite marks and the occoasional "strange stain" on her, and they also spit. Call child services, no matter what state you live in, they will come and "surprise" visit the daycare you know what? get them outta the daycare altogether, theyre garbage, and its not their job to repremend your child. its yours. and i think you know that.
know what i dont have kids, but i hope to very soon one day
and i'll tell you what; DO NOT let me hear that my child was
spanked, ECSPECIALLY if i dont spank at home(i dont plan to)
because*im shaking my head in anger right now* They will
have to call an ambulance for my visit, best believe someones
going home in one and it will not be me. they better call a bondsman, and get my bail ready too, i'll DESTROY THAT daycare worker. i have a theory and its b/c ive seen my mom over the years work where she does, and other than my mom
having 25 years exspirence as a mom, and she is a wonderful mom to boot, but they hire these douch bags with no education and no patience, and thats the end result, call the state and get those kids outta there.
2006-10-05 04:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is against the law for a childcare worker to lay a hand on a child. Your friend should get that teacher fired b/c she has no business working in a daycare.
That poor kid is going to be confused as heck if he thinks any adult can spank him. Your friend needs to sit down and talk with her son more than anything. He needs reassurance and clarification right now.
2006-10-05 04:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is illegal to spank a child while in the care of a center. A child care center employee can not touch a child in this manner. You should call the state and have them investigated...or talk to the owner of the day care center. More than likely, she (the one who hit) will lose their job, but they are there to take care of children and that is why they have time out's...and re-direction. I would not take this lightly as if she was up front about spanking once, more than likely she is doing it to other children as well. If the state is called, they will do an investigation if not write the center up...if they continually have the state there for whatever reasons, the center can be shut down.
2006-10-05 04:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Daycare workers, teachers - any care provider should not be using corporal punishment without consent of the parents. I have heard of schools that do use it but it is a policy that is made well-known to the parents before they decide to enroll their children there.
I would definitely bring this to someone's attention. I wouldn't go to the authorities right away, though. I really think too many people bring things to that level in anger or as a knee-jerk reaction. I would first go to the school director and have them deal with that teacher in-house. She that she gets better training and allow her the chance to correct her methods. She will be on notice and if the school is reputable they will watch her carefully and make sure that it doesn't happen again to any child.
2006-10-05 04:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No daycare facility has the right to spank your child. There is no such thing as a written agreement for you to give them permission to do that. It doesn't matter if he was biting or not, they cannot legally spank your child!!!! I would contact the Child protective services and give them a heads up on what is happening in that particular facility and then go from there. Tell your friend good luck, if it was my child I would be breaking my foot off in someone's A$$!!!!!!!
2006-10-05 04:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in spanking period! They should be reported. There are other ways to discipline. Biting is a problem, especially with a 4 year old. Usually they are over it by then. I would not take him back to that day care. Something is dreadfully wrong. They should have had a meeting with the parents and discussed what to do.
2006-10-05 04:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by jelly-bean 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋