would you get mad if you were me?

Question

would you get mad if ur b/f was always going to the strip club? even if he was being honest and telling you? am i right to get mad or am i wrong for being jealous? help me pls?

Answer 1

well personally i would just let it go because hes not sleeping with them

Answer 2

Well occasionally going to the strip club is cool it lets a guy be a guy but obsessively going to the strip club takes money away from both of your pockets and that you have every right to be mad about. If I were you I would go with him one time. Just say hey I wanna go and see how he acts and what he does. But just dont go and sit there like I hate this crap go and have fun drink and ask to tip a girl this will throw him off and then he will embrace you more for being so open. Two things can happen if you go: One he will want you to go all the time with him and then you tell him NO it was just a one time deal to have a good time with you doing things you like to do. Two: He spends more time at home with you because he got a little freaked out by the fact that you were there. Hopefully number two happens but one is definitely a possibility. I would say be mad if it continues after that. When I went with my boyfriend we had a good time he was surprised how open I was to his "secret little world" anyway hope it all works out! good luck

Answer 3

I guess the question that needs to be asked is, why are these guys going to strip clubs in the first place? I am guessing that it falls into one of two categories 99% of the time. One, the guy going there have no other way of getting close to a naked woman and it is like a naked woman supermarket that they can purchase the attention of a woman. Two, they are not satisfied with what they have at home and are needing to look at and touch something else. Why else would a guy go to a strip club and give hard earned money away for something that they could have at home... Now there are a few guys that have been cut off at home and their wife/gf treat them like the plague and maybe they are going to the strip club to see what they are not seeing at home, but that is the exception and not the rule.
Bottom line is, he is sending a not so subtle message that he needs more than he is getting at home, weather it be to look at or to touch. And if he is not satisfied now, what happens in 10 years or longer when the two of you age, but the age of the girls at the club stays a steady 21 - 30?

Answer 4

It's looking but not touching. Not a big deal... unless he is spending an exorbanunt amount of money and time there... then it may be a problem. It's no reason to be jealous. He's honest, forthcoming, and not cheating. Hey, maybe you could go with sometime and see what all the hububb is about.
Really tho... it's just looking... ok so it's gawking... but it's a guy thing, they do it, in front of you or not... guys like seeing near nude women. You reap the rewards later that night. Maybe you could do your own strip tease for him.. it may even draw some of that attention back to you.

Answer 5

I think you have the right to be mad...I may be old fashion when it comes to things like this, but I don't think guys that are married or in a relationship should even be in a bar/strip club without his girl....Have you been to a bar lately, 90% of the girls and guys there, are there to flirt, have affairs or cause trouble, Why would any woman want to let her man be in the middle of all that? Not me, first of all, I feel my man shouldn't want to see other women, if he has me at home, but that's just my opinion, and I don't think it should be called jealousy (the meaning of jealousy is wanting something, someone else has, in this case would be your bf eyes, but not anything else), it is ownership and territorial, why would any woman in her right mind want some other woman putting her cookie in their mans face. NO, girl, I think you have the right to be a little upset, and let him know it doesn't show respect, why doesn't he just stay home and watch you strip, what makes him feel he has to see other girls....I don't know, never did understand things like that. Maybe for single people, but no one else.....Just my opinion, good luck, take care, and have a wonderful day!

Answer 6

My b/f did that too. He always told me what he was doing. I sometimes felt jealous, but he always came home to me. If he was with another girl then you have the right to get mad. Why don't you talk to him and tell him how you feel? Maybe you can go with him to a strip club.

Answer 7

You need to question why you are jealous. Most women are jealous because they feel inadequate compared to those women. Also you need to find out why he goes. Is it just entertainment for him or is he really getting something out of it. You need to talk honestly about this with him and be willing to deal with whatever he tells you, even if it hurts your feelings. Tell him that you want him to be honest with you about why he goes. You need to know. Also, you might try going to the club just to see what the mystery is.

Personally, the only reason I would be mad is that he was spending our money to look at other women that he can't even touch. Not that I want him to touch them, but that I could understand.

Answer 8

I would be mad if my bf was always going to strip clubs. Once in awhile wouldnt upset me but if he goes often, that would make me mad. Did you tell him how it makes you feel? Good luck to you, take care

Answer 9

You have every right to get mad! If he won't stop going for you then you need to break up with him!!! That means he loves strip clubs more than you.

Answer 10

I don't like my husband going to strip clubs. It makes me jealous,

Answer 11

I guess it would depend on how often "always" actually is. Also, does he go w/ a group of guys? Does he come home broke because he's given all his money to the ladies? Better yet, go with him to the club and see what it is all about.