My husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage. His daughter is 12 & son is 10. I have a 4 yr old son also from a previous marriage so now we have a joined family. My husbands son is a well mannered, easy goin, wonderful kid, & his daughter is just the opposite! She's very disrespectful to her dad & talks to him like a dog but for some reason he kisses her butt & babies her & lets her get away with everything! And if his son does any little thing wrong (which is hardly ever) he jumps all over him! He's not really that loving & jumps all over my son too. Everyone can see that he makes a difference in all the kids but him of course. He told me that he'll always love his two kids more than my child because you love your own kids way more than a stepkid. Everytime i try to talk to him about it, he gets defensive, makes excuses for the way his daughter acts, & denies that he treats her better than his son or my son. Can anyone relate to this? Anyone got any advice? Is this fair?
2006-10-05 03:58:18 · 7 answers · asked by rideabanjopicker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His ex wife told me that it's been this way since his son was born. But it was a planned pregnancy and they got a boy just like they both wanted! No one can figure out what the deal is!
2006-10-05 03:59:20 · update #1
His son and yours are going to grow up and wonder what is "wrong" with them. She sounds like a spoiled brat.He probably kisses her butt because he doesn't want to hear her whine like a baby. As for your son, he is your responsibility and you should not allow this man to treat him that way. You HAVE to put a stop to the way he treats both kids but especially your son. Leave him if you have to.
I also agree with the other answer you were given on video taping him and let him see just how he is playing favorites, and maybe let that little brat girl watch too so she can see just how spoiled and childish she is.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 04:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by nnett64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about this, there is a reason depp down inside him that he is so hard on the boys. Was his father especially hard on him? Or did he have a father in his life? But most importantly if he has told upfront that he will never love your son as he does his own why are you still there? My husband loves my son and is wonderful with him. We have a daughter together but I have never felt that he treats him badly of differently. They are great buddies. Put your sons feelings above anyone elses and see where you end up.
2006-10-05 04:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by amy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God! If your husband had 2 daughters instead of a son, I'd seriously think we married the same guy! I wish I had something brilliant to tell you, or even helpful. But it's been 5 years and I've tried everything I can think of and nothing has gotten through to him. He's bullied my kids to the point where they hate him and I'm not exposing them to that any more. No child deserves to feel less valued as a person just because their not his Princess-Pitch-A-Fit. It's like he's got this whole standard of acceptable behavior for every child on earth except for her. I deserve better than this and more importantly, my kids deserve better. We're getting divorced.
2006-10-05 04:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to tell him that if you would make a difference between him and the kids, he would feel bad....And when he acts like that, the others feel bad....He has to love everyone...I think he preffers the girl because she is a little different and he wants to help her...But tell him she would be just fin, even without his biiiig care.....Tell him to wake up until he regrets it ;) good luck....
2006-10-05 04:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can relate! it will NEVER change!!!!!!! do you want your son to spend his young life feeling he is less than his daughter? my advice--after 5 years i woke up and MOVED ON !!!!! even though i loved him very much my kids happiness comes first!!!!
2006-10-05 04:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HATE TO BE YOU!!!!! HE IS IN DENIAL. VIDEO TAPE HIM AND LET HIM SEE THE TRUE HIM. OR TAPE RECORD HIS COMMENTS.
2006-10-05 04:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just leave him.
2006-10-05 04:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋