I read that some guys don't like to date single mom's because some of them do not want to have anymore children, in my case I can't have anymore kids. So am i destined to be alone the rest of my life. I would date a guy with kids that did not want anymore kids. Kinda seems unfair the other way around.
2006-10-05 03:56:57 · 21 answers · asked by angelkisses_2032 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just some dear, i met a man 3 1/2 years ago that i figured wouldn't have anything to do with me cause i had 3 kids. the boys were very ornery, the girl was 1 1/2 we started talking, then dating. we will be married 12 year next February 14. he raised my kids as his own. you find one willing to take on kids that's not his hold on to him , cause there isn't many out there that are. god bless you
2006-10-05 04:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear not, it is not all guys that are put off by single moms. I married a single mom, so it does not apply to all guys. You have probably been reading from guys that just want to have the benefits of a wife, but not the responsibilities of a family. There are guys out there that love kids (not in the ugly way) and single moms, just do not settle and you will find a good man that does not shy from a single mom and child or children...
2006-10-05 11:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are put off by single mom's. I am a single parent myself and even though my daughter is now grown I didn't really see any difference as far as dating went. I've dated quite a few single mom's, it is the person that I'm dating is why I did and not the family. I tend to enjoy children, whether they are mine or not so it didn't matter to me. I wouldn't worry about it, I seriously doubt you will be alone all your life unless you choose to be. In this day and age it is permissable for the woman to ask the man out also, I have been asked out before, being a man, and it didn't bother me. Just be yourself and enjoy your life, happiness comes from within, not from without.
francis
2006-10-05 11:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by francis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are turned way by a single Mother. But the man has to understand that if he is in a relationship with a single Mother he has to remain flexible. Sometimes things come up which are beyond our control such as illnesses. But the positive side of this for you is that you will be able to see if the man is patient and understanding. I have no issues dating a lady who has children.
2006-10-05 11:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there are alot of single dads out there too. My brother married a woman who has 5 kids. I am a single mom too, and if a guy doesn't want anything to do with kids, he isn't good enough for me. Put yourself and kids first, the rest will happen, probably when you least expect it.
2006-10-05 11:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Candi S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some, not all. You can't stereotype us all this way. It is true that some men tend to see a single mom as carrying "baggage" that they don;t care to have to deal with. The obvious "ex" or "exes", and those obvious relationships, and the product(s) of those relationships. Some single moms are overprotective of their kid(s), and do not allow a second husband to discipline them. That causes problems.
So there are all kinds of additional issues that come into those kinds of relationships, and some men have a hard enough time just dealing with the single woman, much less the single mom!
2006-10-05 11:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I was wondering the same thing! I'm a single mom too. It's like guys are interested then they find out you have a kid and it's all over. What's the deal!?!?! btw where is a good place to meet guys when you are a single mom? It's not like I am going to go to a bar. Just wondering.
2006-10-05 11:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Goldylocks 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think they all feel that way. I was a single mom for a couple of years, and I now have a teriffic guy in my life. It just depends on the maturity level of the man, and his preferences. Trust me the right guy will come into your life, you just have to be alittle patient. Good luck.
2006-10-05 11:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every man is like that. Men are just as different as women are. Some dont care one way or the other, and others just arent ready to be dads to another mans child. My cousin is getting married to a women who has 5 children, none are his. He loves them all and they all call him dad. You just have to find the right guy, and the right guy wont care.
2006-10-05 10:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All guys are not but most are. I found a good one who loves my kids. He has 3 of his own as well and we won't be having anymore and still wouldn't if we could. Good luck and don't give up. There are still "a few good men" out there.
2006-10-05 11:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋