yesterday i got grounded because i unplugged my dads cell phone charger. he said i need to learn that i cant just do what i want when i want. he calls me disrespectful when im really not. i never do anything against my parents. i never did drugs, drank or had sex. i dont even have my license and im 18, my dad doesnt feel its his responsibility to teach me to drive. he also gets extremely mad when i spend the night at anyones house. i asked my mother if i could stay with one of my friends without asking my dad first and he pounded his fist on the computer desk. calling me disrespectful. its gotten to the point where i dont even want to be around him. i avoid being in the same room as him. i really dont know what to do, i feel like im in a prison living with him. i wish i could move out but i dont even think he'll even let me. he also yells at my mom, saying she f***ed us kids up. that hurts a lot. im a good girl and try hard in school, and i am respectful towards other people.
2006-10-05 03:52:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my parents are still together, and my dad feels he has authority over her also. hes been abusive with her before but that was a long time ago. hes a hard worker and likes to have control of things, unfortunatly he just lost his job so he probably feels like he needs to control something or someone. hes taking it out on me though, and its putting me down. im considering getting a job and moving out of town. i just feel its going to break my dads heart, he has a lot of health problems and i do love him but i cant stay here and let him take control of my life. i know enough of whats right and whats wrong.
2006-10-05 04:39:24 · update #1
Save up your money
Get a job across town
Move out
2006-10-05 03:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable your dad get to correctly known her - as stupid because it sounds, in case you all spend it sluggish jointly (invite her to dinner or action picture evening at your place and so on), he will see the kind you adult men are interacting jointly and the assumption of the two one in each of you spending time on my own should not be so frightening for him to any extent further. often - the main suitable way of dealing with strict mothers and dads is to be uncomplicated with them and over the years teach them which you're in charge son and that they might have faith you (good grades do no longer harm the two - they teach you're clever). it won't be a speedy answer, however the outcomes will final you continuously. Strict mothers and dads would be strict even once you develop right into a grown up!
2016-10-01 23:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by banowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so why did you unplug his cellphone? if your 18 you are by law an adult and you can move out if you want to. Sounds to me like your dad is scared of losing you, My ex's dad was like that to he didn't want her driving because he was afraid she'd drive away and he'd never see her again. But she got it any way on her own and showed him he was just being silly. Your 18 you have a legal right to goto the DMV and take your test by yourself. You don't need parental consent for anything anymore. You can do whatever you want to now and your parents can not do anything about it. Oh yea, and being grounded at 18? He can't do that anymore either.
2006-10-05 04:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by webwriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your dad has a lot of issues he needs to get worked out. Don't believe for a second that anything is your fault. You sound like you work hard and deserve a lot better from him. Unfortunately he was probably treated the same way by his parents. Lot's of people fall back onto what they remember from their own child hood. I bet he gets a lot stricter when he has a bad day or has a fight with your mom right? Also, some men instead of facing their own weaknesses try to act strong by leading with a heavy fist. He probably blames himself for how his parents treated him and probably blames himself for losing his job. Again, don't ever believe any of what is happening is your fault, don't ever see this as you not being good enough for him because you are MORE then good enough of a daughter for him. It sounds like he isnt a good enough father for you. I know several dad's who would kill to have a daughter like you :)
If you have a decently close relationship with your mom i would recommend going out on a girls night or something somewhere and sitting down and talking about your father, his relationship with your mother and his relationship with his parents with her. you deserve better then this.
Sometimes parents only need to hear their childrens approval of them to relax a little. Tell him you love him. Don't hate him for treating you like this. It sounds like he needs to sit down and work out a lot of his anxieties within himself before he'll ever treat you 100% of what you deserve. Hang in there, be strong and continue doing your best. Just don't do it for him. Do it for yourself. If you know that you're trying your hardest to succeed then his approval doesnt really matter, only your own :)
,Chris
2006-10-05 04:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by csar3742 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a good luck at the problems your causing for your dad. Yeah fine he might over react on some things but have you done lots of little things to upset him. Everybody is good, just try a little harder to have a peaceful realationship, do what your told (without fuss) and have a positive relationship with your dad
2006-10-05 03:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by survival_paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a heart to heart talk with your dad. By this you will know his feelings... or whatever it is that bothers him. Tell him 'bout your feelings too & give him the assurance that you value them as your parents & you will do your best for your future & for them of course. Honor your father & mother( from Ten commandments). Seek guidance from the Lord & pray always. Be patient, everything will be fine.. I've been there before!
2006-10-05 04:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Love Freely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to be a no-win situation, but I am not jumping to any conclusion unless I hear his part of the story.
My suggestion to you under the circumstances is -- please continue to be what you are -- a nice, sweet and lovely girl -- a truly adorable daughter that any parent would be proud of.
Don't lose your heart sweetie... things will improve with time and your dad shall see the light of the day soon.
2006-10-05 04:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 18, you're an adult! Get your license, get a job and get out of there if that's what you want to do. Maybe one day your dad will see how he pushed you away, but I wouldn't count on it. So just get your own life on track without him.
2006-10-05 03:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is emotionally abusive; what he never told you is that, as of the day you turned 18, you're legally an adult and have NO OBLIGATION TO LISTEN TO HIM AT ALL, once you leave his house.
So...move out.
Once you do, you can do whatever you want and never go back to his house, ever.
2006-10-05 04:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, i don't know what you should do. i mean, i can relate to you in the fact that my dad is sort of like that too. maybe you should tell your mom how you feel about him and maybe she'll take it into her own hands and talk to him about it. i think we should talk more though cuz we can relate.
2006-10-05 03:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by lil me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋