Can a boy love you and still want to get in your pants? My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to take it all the way with him and I told him yes. He's really touchy feally, but askes me if I would have kids with him and if when we get out of college can we get a place together. He just got jumped and now he might not be aloud over my house again because he got jumped right by where I live and my dad doesn't like him so he won't let me go nowhere cause he knows I'll go see him. I'm really confused because I feel like he loves me and he says that he loves me and treats me good and everything, but he's really touchy feally and a couple of my friends think he's just trying to get in my pants, but I don't because I think if I would have told him that I didn't want to have sex with him he would have been o.k with it. I really love him.
2006-10-05 03:48:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may very well love you and want to sleep with you. Both are posible. If you trust the guy and love him, trust in his words.
Ignore other girls saying he just wants to jump your bones. He might, but it's not their call. Most girls are mousy and will tell you the opposite of your boyfriend everytime.
But if you are ready to go to the next level in your relationship, enjoy it. Dont let others opinions of your boyfriend stop you from pleasing yourself and your partner.
Most guys will say and do what ever for some lovin' this is common knowledge. And you can say no to test his feelings. But if it's real you will know. And theres nothing wrong with touchy feely. If you do stay together, your gonna rather a man like that over one who only knows your alive when he feels you beside him at night.
But if you are under 18 ( maybe 17 ) ignore me and wait until you are to listen to me.....
2006-10-05 03:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by rebecwi3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking because you are not ready to take that step. I've dated the "touchy feely" type. There's another name for them. "Horny Toad". He's telling you all that bull so you can feel he's for real and give him what he wants. Then all of a sudden plans WILL change. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. Do this. Tell him you like him, a whole lot and thats why you want to take things slow. You don't want to have sex too soon and ruin a good thing. See how long he sticks around. Don't let your love blind you to who he really is. Watch him carefully when you tell him what I suggested. His response should tell you what you are in for. If he gets distant. Do not initiate anything. Dates , meetings nothing see if he still tries to spend time with you. If you notice him pulling away then yes he was only trying to get into your pants. Remember college guys tend to be the "Horniest Toads" there are.
2006-10-05 11:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he ever told you he loved you. I had a bf when i was in high school that everyone said only wanted to get in my pants but he never tried anything with me cause he knew i wasn't ready but he told me he loved like everyday. But my dad hated him cause he thought the boy only wanted sex and never let us go out and stuff. So we were on and off for two years because we wanted to be together but because of my dad not letting me see him and being so controling it caused us problems. The relationship ended once he graduated. And if he loves you he'll still want to have sex with you but if he loves you he will have enough respect for you not to do anything that you don't want to do.
2006-10-05 11:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u wanna find out he loves u tell him to wait until u guys get a place together. If he cant wait then tell him that u wanna get married before sex and kids. If he doesnt want to and gets mad then it means he is just trying to make u have sex. I have sweet talked women before into having sex and it works, be careful dont fall for it.
2006-10-05 10:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by rudy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who knows...a lot can change in a few years. I'm not going to be your mother and tell you to practice chastity because i'm sure it's not what you want to hear, BUT at least wait untill you're out of high school and in college to decide which guys you want to have sex with. As for love, i'm not going to say you don't love him...but sometimes "really really like" can be mistaken for love. If you don't want to have sex, don't. If he ditches you because of that...you don't want to be with him anyway. Good luck!
2006-10-05 10:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by michellinie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really think if you told him you didn't want to go all the way he would stick around. Why don't' you try it and see? Most boys at your age will say anything to get there with you. You better be careful with this one because it sounds like he's up to no good.
2006-10-05 10:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he is trying to get into your pants. Boys will tell you that they love you and talk the talk just to get into your pants. I will tell you one thing---if your Dad doesnt like him, I would take that as a BIG clue. Your father might actually see something about him, that you don't. Family is good that way.
2006-10-05 10:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he can love you and still want to have sex with you, stupid question! If your dad doesn't like him then your dad is probably suspicious of something. My dad didn't lik emy ex-boyfriend and when we broke up I found out he was a drug dealer and did all of these things that hurt me. Sorry to say this, but your dad is kind of right to not let you see him.
2006-10-05 10:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy Love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boys can love you and want sex from you. Boys really are preoccupied with sex and that is the first thing on their mind. Ask him if he loves you and then go from there.
2006-10-05 10:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its all up to you ,but for male sex is the only thing which we cannot control,and its our way of describing our love
2006-10-05 10:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by raja rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋