My sister has a boyfriend who has a drinking problem. This has just come to light within the last few months. We have always celebrated the holidays making toasts and having some form of beer, wine or mixed drink during the holidays. I want to propose that we go alcohol free this year. The boyfriend might not be there, he may have to go to jail. (fifth offense D.U.I.). I'm expecting some resistance because this would definetly put a new spin on the holidays. Am I out of line here?
2006-10-05 03:41:04 · 5 answers · asked by Orangewedge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you all for the sincere responses. I enjoy the input and appreciate the advice.
2006-10-05 05:38:38 · update #1
I never serve alcohol at my house. I don't drink and don't want my kids around a bunch of drunks. All of my friends and family know this and no one ever seems to mind. Besides, it's nice to know when people leave to drive home I won't have to wrestle anyone's keys away.
2006-10-05 05:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the gathering is at your place and u don't want any drinks --so be it. Everyone will have to respect that. If the festivities are held at another home, u have 2 respect their wishes. Especially if your out voted on this matter. If he is not there , then it shouldn't be a problem. Unless some1 else is dealing with a drinking issue. We all celebrate holidays with alot of drinks and food. There is always room 4 a change. Suggest during the holidays (if there is no drinks involved) celebrating how many days he has in sobriety. Even if he is in jail. Your sister is going 2 need a lot of support. She is going 2 need it if this man is a keeper. This means she will (and you all) have 2 change how you celebrate the holidays as well. You are not out of line.
2006-10-05 04:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic will drink no matter what you try to do. If he knows that there wont be any there, he might get drunk before he goes, he might have it in his car and make several trips out there. There isnt anything you can do to prevent him from drinking. If it makes you more comfortable to not have alcohol there then dont, but I would bet that he will have some, one way or another. Even if your sister and him just show up to make there presence known there, he will leave to go and get something to drink.
No one can fix and alcoholic but the alcoholic themselves.
One thing, do not let this man ruin your holidays.
2006-10-05 04:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by nnett64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont see anything wrong with drinking if you are in control. If YOU want to celebrate the holidays alcohol free, then that is your decision, and everybody should have the right to decide for themselves. Your sisters boyfriends drinking problem is exactly that. His problem and shouldnt affect what everybody else does. No harm in suggesting it, but be prepared for "resistance".
2006-10-05 03:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If hes really serious about quitting then he won't be tempted to drink! He should already know how serious his past behaviour is and just because he cant control his drinking doesnt mean the people who can should suffer!
2006-10-05 03:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋