Punishments for bad behavior for kids aged 4
2006-10-05 03:38:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have received all the standard answers so you can take your pick and maybe you will get lucky and the first thing you try will work. My ideas are a little different. Your child is 4 and is spreading his wings trying out things he really doesn't understand that is is making a bad choice in his behavior so the first thing you must do is explain that he is choosing to be naughty. Use whatever words he is used to hearing and explain carefully why it is a bad choice. Then if he makes the same choice again it is time for discipline use less extreme measures here a time out, sitting in a corner( make sure he is facing into the corner) for about 2 or 3 minutes for each year (10 to 15 minutes) anything less and it would not be discipline, Again you must explain that he made a bad choice and what would have been a better choice. Try to get your child to tell you what his bad choice was and maybe even what he could have chosen to do that would have been a better choice. You can up the punishment from there, no play ground time, no TV, Take the favorite toy away, If all else fails then it is time for the swat on the well padded bottom no more than 1 or 2 swats. Usually the shock will make them pay attention to what you are saying. The most important thing in this equation is teaching the child that he is responsible for what he does. He makes the choice to do the wrong or the right thing and he knows the difference.
2006-10-05 04:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timeout for lesser infractions... grounding for more major things.. no tv.. no coloring.. no games.. Remember to make it something you can live with too... Does no good to ground them from going somewhere, if that means you don't get any time away. HINT build fear... send them away while you think of a consequence. Works like a charm. My oldest has had this since she was 4.. she's 6 now... I let the anxiety build for a day or so. Long enough for her to sleep on it, go to school and come home still wondering.
A swat on the rear is appropriate... this is not a spanking or beating. It's one firm swat on the tush, a firm no and sent to the corner. People are so afraid of getting in trouble for spanking, they forget that physical contact is not a bad thing. Also, try redirecting. Tell them no, firmly, and offer a more desirable outlet.
2006-10-05 10:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get down to their level, and explain to the child, how you are very disappointed in what they did. and then tell the child, that you are going to have to punished them for making such a bad decision, you could do time out, they go to the corner, for 5 or 10 minutes, and tell the child to think about what they did, and to remember not to do any thing like that again. or another good punishment is to take away their favorite toy. But you have to explain why you are doing it. I hope some of this helps you!
2006-10-05 10:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arms stretched out for 4 mins? how ridiculous! Causing a child pain is not the way to go...revoking priviliges and time out where there are no distractions such as toys yes. but as a mum of 3 aged 19,14 and 12 the best way to leave bad behaviour behind is to really praise the good !
2006-10-05 10:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just started doing this with my 4yr old.She was really misbehaving in school.But I put her in a chair in the corner all day.She was allowed to get up to use the bathroom and that was it.After about 4 hours she was exhausted.She sat there until dinner time and then went straight to bed.She has been a angel at school since then.But just remember stick to your guns.No matter how much they cry and want to get up just be stern and stick with the punishment.Good Luck
2006-10-05 10:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time Out standing in the corner one minute per year of age
Standing with arms stretched out for four minutes
Sitting in a quiet area for four minutes
Cut off the tv, take away favorite toy
2006-10-05 10:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away something he/she really likes... such as a tv show, game, or something for a set amount of time (10 minutes, 1/2 hour, etc) when they misbehave. Time out maybe. Good luck
2006-10-05 10:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking alot about what he/she is doing wrong, and let him/her now why it is wrong. Sometimes kids like for you to talk to them ALOT. And if his/her behavior is out of control crazy, then you might try getting proffesional help.
Good Luck.
2006-10-05 10:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPANKINGS!!!! Get over that Im not going to spank thing, and do it! It works! It worked for me when I was young and im sure it will work for other kids too!
You need to let that child know who is in charge! If not they will run the house till they move out.
2006-10-05 10:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I do with my 4 year olsd is take something away that she really likes
2006-10-05 10:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by whats up all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋