I mean he say he love me and everything but sometimes I don't believe it we argue about how I feel about this a 100 times but nothing ever help I even think sometimes that I'm not good enough for him and maybe that I should let him go find someone else .Weeks goes by that he don't even call to say HI and I think that he cheating or he just don't have time for me I told him that and we got in an arguement over that I just realy don't know what to do PLEASE HELP I NEED SOME ADVICE!
2006-10-05 03:37:03 · 13 answers · asked by Erica B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here is my point, as a man. You say; you don't believe your boyfriend when He says that He Loves you, and cares for you, so you argue with Him, about how you feel. Then you don't feel good about yourself, and do not feel you are worth His Love....
Now put yourself in His shoes. Would you want too, and be brave enough to call the one you Loved, to say; "Hi or I called to say that I love you!" When you just know it will cause them to get into an argument with you?
Love is trust, sharing, and caring, and the want and will to make your Love feel that way. It is giving to them; "NOT" "Me!, Me!!, Me!!!, F*CK-YOU!!!!"
When you are confident and happy, and show the one you Love that you want and need them to be the same as you; "Happy & Warm" inside.
If you are not confident and happy with yourself; No one can change you or make you feel better, that comes from within you, first and foremost. Until you change how you feel, you will only feel and endure the same things in life, that you feel right now, and will never have and enjoy a Loving and Long-Lasting Relationship, with your current boyfriend or any other men in your future.
Start by being open and honest with Him, and not arguing! He will feel more comfortable with you if you are not fighting with Him.
No one wants to be around constant fighting, that is not Love!!
Try to find out why you feel so unconfident in yourself; I'm sure that you are a really pretty girl inside and out, and your boyfriend really does want to be with you. He is just scared or tired of the constant arguing from you.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-05 04:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by 1moe4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him and find someone else because HE doesnt deserve YOU. I believe a healthy relationship revolves around good communication with your partner and if he flips out every time you tell him how you feel then he doesnt deserve you. Find someone who is caring. Someone who you can talk to about feelings and stuff very easily with and most importantly find someone who treats you right. And always remember to feel good about yourself. Don't ever believe you're the one who's not good enough because nine out of ten times it's the guy. This being one of those times ; )
,Chris
2006-10-05 03:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by csar3742 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have absolutely no confidence in yourself and who wants to be around someone who keeps asking 'Are you angry with me?' or 'Do you still like me?' or fight about their insecurities.
He probably doesn't want to TRY TO CONVINCE you of his love everytime you get together. You are insecure and it's really unattractive. Stop worrying how your guy feels about you and just have fun and dont think so little of yourself. I'm sorry if I come off as judgemental, but in your question you said the following that convinced me you have no confidence and you keep putting yourself down:
'Sometimes I dont believe it...' - you dont believe he loves you
'We argue about how I feel...' - you fight because you of your insecurities
'I'm not good enough for him' - you put yourself down
'I think he is cheating' - you doubt again how he feels about you - NO SELF ESTEEM!
'or he doesnt have time for me' - feeling sorry for yourself again, as if he doesnt care to see you
YOU SHOULD START LOVING AND ACCEPTING YOURSELF!This poor guy must feel like he can't do anything right. Start believing in yourself and grow some confidence!Think about it? Imagine you were him?
2006-10-05 03:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being real with yourself home-girl. You've got to show him that what he's getting someone else can be getting it and I bet you. His true feelings will come out then. But to be on the safe side let him go. You know you deserve better so shoot for the stars
2006-10-05 03:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Selena B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your low self-esteem (you don't feel good enough for him?) is causing you to stay with a guy who doesn't care about your feelings (and thus,does not love you). You are worth much more than that. You need to pick up your groveling self, hold your head up, and go find a guy who will love and appreciate you for who you are! Dump the bum, and move on! You don't need a guy who makes you feel bad about yourself.
2006-10-05 03:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeks go by and he doesn't call? There's almost no excuse for that. If he really cared about you he would at least talk to you regularly if not come to see you. Break it off, I say. You can do better.
2006-10-05 03:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by astazangasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you. No man is that busy they can't call their girlfriend. he has no time to be with you am afraid.
2006-10-05 03:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by bthompsonusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most i can say is talk to him about it and if he is not willing to talk to you nicely than there is no point in keep trying so just move on...
2006-10-05 03:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by KaKes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hone you desrve better than that but if you love try to talk ot him not argue with him about it
2006-10-05 03:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it out with him....i went thru the same thingy....u really need to sort things out. if u dnt think hez serious, break up.
2006-10-05 03:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by pottermaniac_2_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋