It seems the worse I treat them, or the less I care, the more interested in me they are. I cant just find a nice normall attractive girl. If you are attractive YOUR NUTS!
2006-10-05 03:20:22 · 18 answers · asked by STEVE H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
come here I'll makle u nice
2006-10-05 06:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true for all. Attractive girls or women aren't nuts! If I were them I probably wouldn't fall in love with someone who is insensitive to me or my needs, however some like the aggressive type or a man that takes control or is not a wimp. You should not be mean, just stand your ground, be polite to woman and they will appreciate you more. If you don't like someone just tell them in a nice way, but by all means be nice. I know you are probably thinking then I will never get rid of them, but from what you are saying you aren't getting rid of them now! Just do the right thing and treat everyone with kindness...that is the right thing to do.
2006-10-05 10:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by my_beautifulbrown_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time, explain what kinda things you did to appear as mean. There are degrees of being mean. I see a lot of girls react to that but I bet you even they'll get attracted when you are mean the way you are.
Dude, I know Men & Women are hardwired in VERY different ways. If we're nice, they treat us like crap. Or they get bored and cheat. If we are mean* the way you say it, then they find it a challenge to hold on to you and say that they're in love with you.
I spent 3 heavenly weeks with this girl. Then I got nice. Then she started seeing the guy she slept with before. Now I back off, give space, act busy, don't talk anything serious, just chit chat, and now she's constantly phoning me, emailing me, asking me why am I acting wierd, what's wrong with me etc. I know it's a totally diff scenario, yet my attituade and behavioral change in being mean has had an impact on her.
I'm having difficulty in balancing it out. It seems like your the man to talk to about it. Maybe you could tell me a bit about what kinda mean things you do that gets them so attracted to you.
You know it's attraction right? That's what it is. They get attracted to you for treating them like a brat. You're not that mean to make them cry, but you know the balance somehow. That's so cool.
See this girl who challenged you that you'd fall for her? You know the girl who answered ur question before me...that's a challenge. It's fun, interesting. Go have some fun you two.
In the meantime, ur insights on being mean would certainly help me evolve a bit more. I don't know the balance and I keep hurting either them or myself and I don't like to hurt anybody.
Hope my insights helped. If it did, then lemme know. Would appreciate that.
Keep doing what you're doing. Cuz it's working.
Allah Hafez,
Your friend, Raf
2006-10-05 10:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your telling them you don't need them and it's important for them to be wanted, but the catch to that is:
If a woman only reacts to this kind of behavior to crave attention, they are a serious problem you don't want to deal with.
You have to remember. Some women were raised in an environment where they were made to feel cheap and ignored. This is a warped form of communication they only learned when they grew up.
The other side of the coin is that, it seems that these are women that are readily available that you meet a lot easier than the ones you want.
It may take some changing in your environment and approach to things to open yourself to better quality of standards, in meeting women.
Maybe your attracted to being aggressive (with no discipline) with women and don't even know it.
try going to places your not familiar with and building a new base from there. You may be in an area where good communication is not encouraged.
Try something new outside your element and maybe you'll meet the kind of girl your looking for.
2006-10-05 10:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I doubt they fall in love with you myself.If you are mean to women you are a jerk. Who could fall in love with that? I think some women think they like bad boys...but they rarely marry that kind and stay married. If I were you, I'd learn some manners if you ever expect to have a happy marriage.
2006-10-05 10:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because some women love hot passion and meanness resembles that for about a day or two then they wake-up, smell the coffee and come back for your a--!!! good luck finding your tonsils!
2006-10-05 10:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by GOT MILK? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm revealing a big secret:
women love men who ignore them.
or else you are really sweet that you can't be mean but just try to be.
anyway your true love may meet you in disguise!
2006-10-05 10:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by yummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause gurls like bad boys and guys that treat them like crap instead of what they are worth... but dont get it twisted if you were to ever think of treatin me like dat i would be as 5 times bad and at the end you would be in love with me haha try me its true it always happens
2006-10-05 10:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women believe men are projects. we try to change them and make the fall in love with us. we are crazy.
2006-10-05 10:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by bthompsonusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be mean to them? That sounds kind of weird. And why would any normal woman want to be with someone who mistreats her?
2006-10-05 10:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a crazy person (ha ha ha)!! Maybe they like a man to be mean that let's them know YOU DON'T PLAY.
2006-10-05 10:25:19 · answer #11 · answered by Alayshia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋