Has anyone ever fallen in love with someone who wasn't your "type" (physically)? Is it truly possible? Any if you're in love with your mate, would you attempt to change in order to be more like their "type"? They are not asking you to, but would you be more opt to do it knowing you're not what they were looking for?
2006-10-05 03:17:02 · 8 answers · asked by T.G. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all who answered. Like I said, this was hypothetical. I saw something on TV that made me think about this and I wanted some opinions. Thanks again!!!
2006-10-05 03:46:52 · update #1
I certainly fell in love with someone who wasn't my "type". I grew up around dark-haired men who were average height and had a more muscular build because of the physical labor required in their jobs and no facial hair.
My husband is extremely tall, fair hair and of a less-muscular build and when we first met and fell in love he had a mustache and beard.
I fell in love with him not with his looks and I realized that it was just a matter of familiarity as to what I had thought of as handsome or my "type". I never asked what his "type" was as he fell in love with me not how I look. Personally, I think I got the better deal.
I'd not change to be more of his "type" If it was different than what I look like unless it was something I'd wanted to do for me anyway. You must be true to yourself. If you change for someone else then it's just a lie anyway and that's not a good basis for a relationship.
And if they chose you, you must be what they're looking for. Unless you don't have confidence in yourself or don't trust him.
2006-10-05 03:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hollywood to the contrary, the most lasting kinds of love are based on the old, dull, mutual outlooks, values, interests and goals in life. If they are with you, you have become their 'type'.
In fact they may not have known that they preferred your type until they tried it. If they are not asking you to change they why act as if they don't know what they want?
Some times we can 'type' ourselves out of the market, MUST be blonde, skinny, long hair, blue eyes, tall, big boobs/muscles. That's a way to avoid a whole lot of other prospects.
I've seen men want the playboy bunny for a good time and when it came time to marry,it was someone they could take to the country club and the business dinner. Different 'types' for different purposes.
2006-10-05 03:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I think one could fall in love with someone who may not be "their type" to start with, because something else happens between the two
there is only so much you can "change" about yourself, physically and not physically
also, you still have to "be yourself", you can't "play an act" every time you two meet...
obviously, if they are some adjustments you can make to make the other one happier, that is a good thing
makes sense?
2006-10-05 04:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never done that. I would want someone to just be their selves rather than put on a big front for me. You may be in love with this person but why try to be something your not? In the long run it seems to me, that you'll only be hurting yourself by doing this. Why not just be excepted as who you? Are are you afraid he won't like the real you or something? Sorry for all the questions but this one has me bothered.
2006-10-05 03:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i have fallen in love with someone who was not my type physically... he had da cutest face but his body juss didnt match but i decided to give it a chance and we ended up together for 3 years and even through we are not together to day we are good friends... and as for my current man now we've been together 2 yrs and he has his little flaws but i would not change a thing about him because if i had my perfect man my relationship would not be as perfect... meaning our communication, our trust for one another our laughs our support its not that big things in life that count its the little things that happen that make you relationship/ life worth while so that is why as much as he is not my dream guy physically he is the man i care about and would plan to spend the rest of my life with
2006-10-05 03:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feels like a nightmare! i could be initially disappointed too, & then as quickly as i develop into waiting to place some actual concept into the placement, i could desire to debate it futher with him. My husband is kinda like that & says issues that kinda throws me until eventually I communicate it over with him extra effective & get his attitude extra effective. He would have been afraid to anticipate that he had a say in what you like. i certainly do no longer comprehend, i'm in basic terms attempting to furnish him the benifit of the doubt. i could attempt to maintain an open techniques approximately it until eventually you have the two had time to react much less immediately & are settled sufficient to be waiting to certainly communicate. He would have meant it in a "detrimental" way, yet with any luck no longer! & so it truly is definetly worth yet another planned disscussion. I want you my maximum suitable!
2016-10-01 23:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by banowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent what they were looking for,,you both wouldnt be together in the first place. And no i wouldnt change anything for someone else. If they dont like me for me,,then we wouldnt be together., Thats shallow....you dont judge anyone by the outside. People fall for eachother for all different reasons,not only the way someone looks.
2006-10-05 03:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha Well any woman will tell you any Hobbit can look good if he has enough money xx
2006-10-05 03:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋