My friend and I really like each other and have talked about a relationship, but not taken the step yet. He says he is afraid of what would happen if it doesn't work out. Kissed first time last week and twice since, how do I know if he is interested in a relationship or happy with the occasional kissing or cuddling. I'm not talking about sex. That would definately ruin a friendship if it's not going to be a relationship.
2006-10-05 02:49:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to assume kissing and cuddling are more than likely to be preludes to sex - if you're doing these things, chances are, he's not going to want to stop at this eventually. You have to decide whether you just want a friend, or a more complex relationship. You can make a relationship anything along the spectrum that you want, as long as you can establish rules you can both live by. But, ask yourself if you can handle kissing and cuddling with him at 7 pm, if he's got a date with another woman at 9 - my guess is this wouldn't go over well with you. Just let the relationship develop into whatever it will become at it's own pace, but you should first examine the level of intimacy both of you will be comfortable with. I'd say if he's telling you this stuff about being afraid of what might happen if it doesn't work out, that he either needs some time, or he doesn't see you as a good match for him in this regard. I certainly wouldn't push it.
2006-10-05 03:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by drbernice843 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really interested in a relationship he would make it known. Dont make yourself to easy by kissing and cuddling because that is what he is goin to keep doin instead of saying that he is interested in a relationship. If he thinks that he is satified with what is goin on between you two then kissing and cuddlin is all that it will be while yall are just friends or friends with benefits.
I was in the same position. But, I learned what to do. If he didnt make the move, then he is not interested in a relationship but only interested in the flesh.
2006-10-05 03:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he's your friend there should be know type of kissing, cuddling nothing. Because all that stuff leads to SEX in the end and that could lead to the end of a good friendship if things go wrong.
2006-10-05 02:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
had the same thing. friendship is now over. dont even think about it anymore. as soon as the sexual thing (kissing is sexual too...) comes into the topic, you can forget about staying nowmal friends. well we were together for 2 1/2 months and it didnt work out. but now we are friends again, took us one year though and a lot of drama.
2006-10-05 02:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by dorotti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the type of kissing. I have kissed girls that were only friends. If you are kissing with passion then you are headed to the inevitable.
2006-10-05 02:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ben M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, kissing has already changed the relationship.Sounds like he wants to keep things simple, and to take it slow. Not a bad idea...
2006-10-05 02:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would much rather have a friend with benefits than a boyfriend. It's less stifling that way.
2006-10-05 12:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not think sex can ruin a relationship????????? It ruins more then half the marriages
2006-10-05 02:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...well thats all he wants is to get in ur pants with no strings attached thats all guys want when they want to be "friends with benifits"...sorry to have to tell ya...
2006-10-05 03:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by KaKes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits, its alright when its jus one person though, coz if you have 3 or more, thats jus stupid...
2006-10-05 02:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by M!Z3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋